Introduction - Weeks 4-6 - Interpersonal Effectiveness - Flashcard set 7 (Version 2)
What is validation and why is it important in relationships?
Validation is finding the kernel of truth in another person’s perspective or situation. It involves verifying the facts of the situation, such as emotions, thoughts, words, or actions. Validation shows that we are listening, nonjudgmental, and can see the truth of a situation. It makes problem-solving, closeness, and support possible.
What are the key components of validation?
Paying attention and reflecting back without judgment are key components of validation.
What is Level 3 validation and what are its risks?
Level 3 validation involves figuring out what is going on with a person without them telling you in words. Voice tone, body language, and behavior can communicate aspects of experience. Level 3 validation can be fraught with danger and requires caution and openness to correction.
How can validation be helpful or harmful?
There are two types of invalidation: helpful and harmful. Corrective feedback can be helpful. Invalidation can be distressing when your point of view is disregarded.
What are some reasons why misreading and misunderstandings may occur in communication?
People may not understand what you are trying to communicate despite your efforts. This can be due to their insensitivity, inability to relate, or preconceived opinions.
How can misreading and misunderstandings affect a person’s self-esteem?
Misreading can lead to a belief that others don’t care about you. The problem may not be with you, but with the other person’s ability to understand. Clear communication is important to avoid misreading and misunderstandings. It is important to remember that misreading is not always your fault.
What is the definition of something being “valid”?
Something is valid when it is relevant, well-grounded, and appropriate to the end in view.
Why is it important to remain open to being corrected by another person during validation?
Effective validation requires accepting that you might not always know what is going on with another person. Use hypotheses or guesses when reading another person’s emotions. Remain open to being corrected by the other person.
How can validation improve relationships?
Validation makes problem-solving, closeness, and support possible.
What should a person do if they are experiencing misreading or misunderstandings in communication?
Seeking clarification and understanding can help improve communication.
