Distress Tolerance Skills - Video 9 - Flashcard Set
What is willfulness?
Willfulness is the act of trying to control events, people, or experiences, sometimes by avoiding or denying them, and it is the opposite of doing what works.
What is the opposite of willfulness?
The opposite of willfulness is willingness.
Is willfulness always detrimental to our ability to respond effectively?
No, willfulness can be necessary in some situations.
What is radical acceptance?
Radical acceptance is accepting what is and responding to it in an effective and appropriate way.
What is the relationship between willfulness and radical acceptance?
Willfulness and radical acceptance are two opposing ends of a dialectic, but they both feed into each other.
What is willingness?
Willingness is accepting what is and responding to it in an effective and appropriate way, focusing on both individual and group means, and committing oneself to participation.
What metaphor is used to describe life in the video?
Life is compared to hitting baseballs from a pitching machine.
What can we control in life according to the video?
We cannot control the hands we are dealt in life, but we can respond to them in the moment.
What are the steps to move from willfulness to willingness?
The steps to move from willfulness to willingness are observing and labeling our willfulness, then radically accepting it, and practicing turning the mind towards acceptance and willingness.
What can body language be used for in relation to willingness?
Body language, such as half-smiling and willing hands, can be used to change our emotional experience in a given moment.
How can developing insight into our pattern of willfulness be helpful?
Developing insight into our pattern of willfulness can help us notice it more often and be non-judgmental when it shows up.
What can asking ourselves what the threat is in willfulness give us?
Asking ourselves what the threat is in willfulness can give us room for problem-solving and planning.
