Introduction - Weeks 4-6 - Interpersonal Effectiveness - Flashcard set 3 (Version 2)
What are the GIVE skills for effective interpersonal communication and what do they include?
The GIVE skills for effective interpersonal communication are gentleness, interest, and using an easy manner. Gentleness means no attacks, threats, judging, or disrespect. Being interested means listening to the other person’s point of view without interrupting or assuming. Using an easy manner means being lighthearted, using humor, and soothing the other person.
What is self-respect effectiveness and why is it important?
Self-respect effectiveness is acting in a way that maintains or increases your self-respect after an interpersonal interaction. It involves asking for what you want or saying no in a way that you will still respect yourself afterward. The goal is to identify the skills needed to keep self-respect while not forgetting the mindfulness “how” skill of effectiveness. Balancing self-respect effectiveness and objectives effectiveness is important.
What are the FAST skills and what do they stand for?
The FAST skills stand for Fair, no Apologies, Stick to values, and Truthful.
How can using DEAR MAN and GIVE skills improve self-respect?
Using DEAR MAN and GIVE skills can improve self-respect by helping individuals balance what they want and what the other person wants and needs, and finding the best path to self-respect.
What factors should be considered when analyzing each situation for appropriateness?
Factors to consider when analyzing each situation include capability, priorities, self-respect, rights, authority, relationship, long-term versus short-term goals, reciprocity, and clarity.
What is the importance of balancing self-respect effectiveness and objectives effectiveness?
Balancing self-respect effectiveness and objectives effectiveness is important in achieving effective interpersonal communication, as it helps individuals maintain their self-respect while also achieving their objective goals.
What are some ways to troubleshoot when what you’re doing isn’t working in interpersonal communication?
Some ways to troubleshoot when what you’re doing isn’t working in interpersonal communication include asking if others have what you want or need and are more powerful, asking if others are more in control of the situation, asking if others will be threatened if you get what you want, and asking if others have reasons for not liking you getting what you want.
How can people respond better to others in interpersonal communication?
People respond better to gentleness, interest, and an easy manner than to bullying, pushiness, or guilt-tripping.
What is the goal of effective communication?
The goal of effective communication is to achieve relationship effectiveness and objective goals.
How does interpersonal effectiveness change in different situations and timing?
Interpersonal effectiveness changes as situations and timing change. Increasing the intensity of asking if it’s a good time to ask or saying no if it’s not a good time to say yes, and using wise mind to decide how intensely to push for what you want can help calibrate the importance of factors using wise mind. It is important to be in wise mind, not emotional mind, when using it as a factor.
