Introduction - Weeks 4-6 - Interpersonal Effectiveness - Flashcard set 3 (Version 1)

Question 1

How can we check the facts when we’re unsure about someone’s motives?

Answer 1

By asking questions and observing people’s reactions

Question 2

What is the opposite of giving people the benefit of the doubt?

Answer 2

mistrusting people without good reasons

Question 3

How can you tell if someone is trustworthy?

Answer 3

They will be honest and have good intentions

Question 4

What does it mean to “buy into” an interaction?

Answer 4

Completely participating in it

Question 5

What does “staying in the present” mean?

Answer 5

Being aware of and participating in what is happening in the present moment

Question 6

What does it mean to “go with the flow?”

Answer 6

To follow along with the other person in an interaction or group activity, rather than trying to control everything

Question 7

What is the most important thing to do when ending a relationship?

Answer 7

Be direct and clear

Question 8

How can you end a relationship in a way that is least hurtful to the other person?

Answer 8

By being truthful about the problems in the relationship, and making no apologies

Question 9

What are some of the consequences of strong negative emotion in interpersonal situations?

Answer 9

Rash actions, judgmental thinking, and escalating conflict

Question 10

What do you do if you love someone but the relationship is incompatible with your life goals?

Answer 10

End the relationship

Question 11

What might happen if someone in a relationship with a drug addict tries to get clean?

Answer 11

They may have difficulty getting clean themselves if their partner is still using drugs

Question 12

How might love continue despite mistreatment?

Answer 12

The person being mistreated still cares for the person doing the mistreating

Question 13

What are some situations where it is difficult to stay focused on goals?

Answer 13

When you are tired, when you are bored, or when you are distracted

Question 14

What are some of the reasons an alliance may be impossible between two people even though there is great love?

Answer 14

Incompatible values, career demands, the well-being of children, unwillingness to move to distant locations, and many other considerations

Question 15

What is an example of a situation where someone might stay in a relationship despite it being harmful?

Answer 15

Someone addicted to drugs who loves a drug addict

Question 16

What is the difference between justified and unjustified guilt?

Answer 16

Justified guilt is feeling guilty when a completed or intended action violates our important moral values. Unjustified guilt is feeling guilty for something that does not in reality violate our moral values

Question 17

What is the most important thing to realize if you are in an abusive relationship?

Answer 17

That you may need to get help from a professional in order to leave the relationship safely

Question 18

What is the middle path?

Answer 18

A path of harmony with reality as it is

Question 19

What is the importance of validation in relationships?

Answer 19

It helps ensure that communication is clear and effective

Question 20

What is the difference between validation and invalidation?

Answer 20

Validation communicates that a person’s feelings, thoughts, and actions are understandable, given the person’s past or current situation. Invalidation does not validate the invalid

Question 21

What are behavior change skills?

Answer 21

Techniques that use consequences and stimulus control to increase desired behaviors or decrease undesired behaviors

Question 22

How can you generate more balanced interpretations?

Answer 22

By considering all sides of an issue

Question 23

How can I find the truth in a situation?

Answer 23

By examining all sides of the situation and all points of view

Question 24

What are some examples of being tough AND gentle?

Answer 24

Being able to handle difficult situations while still being compassionate, or being assertive while still being kind

Question 25

What does it mean to see the world in black-and-white terms?

Answer 25

To see it in only two extremes, with no middle ground