Cycle 12 - Flashcard Set 3
What are negative core beliefs and when do they usually develop?
Negative core beliefs are beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world that become embedded in us, usually when we’re young.
How do our brains form around our environment and what impact does it have on us?
Our brains form around our environment, and we learn how to survive and stay safe, even if it means not setting us up for the most healthy, balanced adult we could be.
What is healthy shame and how is it different from toxic shame?
Healthy shame is feeling bad about something we did wrong, while toxic shame is feeling that we are bad and wrong as a person.
What is the role of shame in disrupting proximity seeking?
When we are being abused or threatened by the person in our life that’s supposed to protect us, shame is the only emotion that’s powerful enough to disrupt proximity seeking.
Why are negative core beliefs damaging?
Negative core beliefs can be damaging because we internalize ideas that we are bad, wrong, and don’t deserve help.
How can negative core beliefs impact our decisions?
Core beliefs can impact every decision we make, and they can look like ‘I can’t succeed in anything’ or ‘I am not worth it.’
What are some of the factors that can lead to the formation of negative core beliefs?
Negative core beliefs can be imprinted by constantly being ridiculed, not given support, undiagnosed disabilities, or families that are committed to excellence.
What are some examples of negative core beliefs?
Negative core beliefs are usually very simple, such as ‘I’m not good enough’ or ‘I will fail.’
How can negative core beliefs manifest in our adult lives?
The schema that negative core beliefs create can manifest in complicated ways that have tentacles that travel far into our adult lives.
Can we be wounded in childhood by things that society deems as positive?
We can be wounded in childhood by things that society and many people would think are beneficial or esteeming.
What is the difference between inherent vulnerability and acquired vulnerability?
Negative core beliefs can create inherent vulnerability, which we have to deal with later on in life.
What is the difference between healthy and toxic shame, and how do they impact our lives?
Healthy shame is feeling bad about something we did wrong, while toxic shame is feeling that we are bad and wrong as a person. Both can impact our lives, but toxic shame can be particularly damaging.
What are negative core belief schemas, and how do they influence adult behaviors?
Negative core belief schemas are beliefs that are usually unconscious and embedded in us in early life. They can influence our decisions and behaviors as adults.
What coping strategies can be learned from family of origin, and how do they relate to negative core beliefs?
Coping strategies learned from family of origin can include avoidance, anger and rage, alcohol and drug use, intensity cycles, and overshopping. These coping strategies can reinforce negative core beliefs and lead to self-esteem failure when receiving constructive feedback.
How do coping mechanisms and strategies intensify when stress increases, and what problems can they lead to?
Coping mechanisms and strategies intensify as stress increases, leading to more severe problems like substance use disorders, gambling issues, affairs, and family problems.
