Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills - Video 12 - Flashcard Set
What is the acronym for the skills discussed in the text?
FAST - Be fair, No apologies, Stick to values, Be truthful
What does the skill of being fair involve?
Validating your own feelings and wishes as well as the other person’s
Why should you avoid over-apologizing?
Apologizing can reduce your self-respect or credibility
What does it mean to stick to your values?
Knowing what your values are and holding on to them, even in the face of opposition
Why is it important to be truthful?
Dishonesty over time will diminish your self-respect
What does it mean to use FAST when making a request or saying no to a request?
To help maintain or increase your self-respect in interpersonal situations
What is self-respect related to in interpersonal situations?
How you feel about yourself after an interaction
What does it mean to be fair to yourself and the other person?
To find a balance between your wishes and the other person’s wishes
What should you do if you value being kind but the people you’re with want to nastily criticize others?
Stick to your values and gently leave the situation or speak up and ask them to stop
What should you do if you feel you have to lie for some reason?
Do it mindfully, with awareness and intention
What does the skill of sticking to your values involve?
Being clear about what your values are and holding on to your position
How can the four FAST skills help you in interpersonal interactions?
They can help you maintain self-respect while navigating situations with others
