Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills - Video 1 - Flashcard Set
What is validation?
Validation is about relaying how a person’s thoughts, opinions, feelings, or urges make sense based on the facts of a given situation and their history.
What is invalidation?
Invalidation is common among parents towards their children, such as telling them that what they feel isn’t true or scolding them for feeling a certain way.
What are some validation techniques for children ranging from infants to age seven?
Labeling their emotions, writing their desires down for future reference, drawing their emotions, and validating with fantasy.
What is the fundamental way to validate children?
Attention
Can all feelings be validated for children?
Yes, all feelings can be validated, but some actions and behaviors must be limited.
What word should be avoided when validating children?
“but” and should be replaced with “and” or provide credit for their knowledge.
What does validating teenagers and adults involve?
Acting interested and reflecting back what is heard, as well as taking a solid guess at what the other person may be feeling or thinking.
What should be avoided when validating teenagers and adults?
Assuming what the other person is feeling or thinking and not gracefully accepting when one is wrong.
What is the most validating thing one can do?
Showing equality
What can cause invalidation when parents interact with their children?
Jumping to problem-solving or advice-giving instead of giving space for the child to feel their emotions.
What should parents avoid when asking questions to their children?
Asking a series of questions that can feel like an interrogation and overwhelm the child.
What is a helpful resource for parents who lack validation skills towards their children?
The book “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk”.
