Cycle 13 - Flashcard Set 1
What are self-destructive beliefs and where do they come from?
Self-destructive beliefs (SDBs) can be invented or adopted by a person going through an unhealthy childhood experience or other abusive experiences later in life.
Can a person suffer from more than one type of self-destructive belief at the same time?
Yes, people may suffer from more than one type of self-destructive belief simultaneously.
What is the main reason for holding on to self-destructive beliefs?
The main reason for holding on to self-destructive beliefs is to create a sense of security and emotional comfort.
Why do humans often remain dependent on self-destructive beliefs?
Humans often remain dependent on these beliefs to function in everyday life in the absence of a consistently warm and constructive attachment experience.
How can knowing which types of beliefs you regularly turn to help you?
Knowing which type of beliefs you regularly turn to can help you understand which kinds of feelings you need to practice identifying, tolerating, working through, managing, etc.
What kind of activities can help build awareness of patterns of thought and behaviour?
Activities that nurture self-discovery and self-awareness (e.g., mindfulness) can help build awareness of patterns of thought and behaviour that tend to make life more complicated than necessary.
What happens when you start noticing your beliefs in real time as life unfolds?
When you start noticing your beliefs in real-time as life unfolds, you begin to have more power to live differently, make different choices, choose different paths, and have different reactions.
Which self-destructive beliefs are common for people with Borderline Personality Disorder?
Some of the common self-destructive beliefs for people with BPD are “achievement,” “demandingness,” and “submissiveness.”
What happens when emotional avoidance behaviours get interwoven into our everyday life?
Emotional avoidance behaviours connected to beliefs get so interwoven into our everyday life that we don’t even notice they are there.
Why are people often confused about why their lives aren’t going well?
Lack of awareness and understanding is why people are often confused about why their lives aren’t going well or why they aren’t getting the results they had hoped for in relationships and other areas of life.
Do self-destructive beliefs and associated emotional avoidance behaviours work to produce relief/contentment?
Eventually, self-destructive beliefs (plus all associated emotional avoidance behaviours) do not work even to produce temporary relief/contentment, and the avoidance behaviours themselves create more consequences than relief.
Who may depend upon several self-destructive beliefs to function?
People with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) may depend upon several self-destructive beliefs to function.
