Introduction - Weeks 4-6 - Interpersonal Effectiveness - Flashcard set 2 (Version 1)
What is an option for dealing with dysfunctional desires?
By mindfully describing the urges, as opposed to voicing the urges directly
What does the author mean by “no name-calling?”
People should not call each other names or say things that could be interpreted as putting someone down
What are the consequences of communicating disrespect nonverbally?
The other person feels disrespected and may not listen to what is being said
How can you show that you’re interested in what the other person has to say?
By listening to them and not interrupting
How can you make sure that people have a positive experience interacting with you?
By acting interested in them and giving them time and space to respond to you
What is the final GIVE skill?
An Easy manner
What is the purpose of using humor?
To make people laugh
How can you ease the other person along?
By being understanding and patient
What are some examples of situations where using an easy manner can help create a comfortable atmosphere?
When the tension is thick, the moments seem to drag on, or it feels like walking near a land mine
What do people not like?
Being bullied, pushed, or made to feel guilty
What is self-respect effectiveness?
Acting in a manner that maintains or increases your self-respect after an interpersonal interaction
How can excessive apologies hurt relationships?
They can make the person apologizing seem insincere
What is the problem with many people’s views on selling out their values?
That they have black-and-white views on this issue: Either they are willing to sell out everything to get approval and liking (to give up their entire “selves,” it seems), or they interpret everything as an issue of values and view flexibility of any sort as giving up their integrity
What is the conflict between what others want you to do and what your personal values tell you to do?
Doing what others want you to do and doing what you believe to be right
What is the definition of self-respect effectiveness?
Acting in a way that increases or maintains your self-respect after an interpersonal interaction
How can you say no to a request in a way that respects yourself?
By being assertive and firm, without being mean or emotional
What are the consequences of lying?
Lying can lead to negative consequences, such as mistrust and deception
What is the best path to self-respect?
Balancing what you want and what the other person wants and needs
What is the final FAST skill?
To be Truthful
What is the opposite of building mastery?
Acting helpless
Can being honest with your thoughts always help a relationship?
No
When is it effective to tell a lie?
When it is necessary to protect someone’s feelings
What is the best way to maintain self-respect?
To balance giving and taking, and to be mindful of the impact that one’s actions have on relationships
How might a person’s interpersonal effectiveness change as their life situation changes?
What works in one situation might not work in another
