Introduction - Weeks 4-6 - Interpersonal Effectiveness - Flashcard set 2 (Version 1)

Question 1

What is an option for dealing with dysfunctional desires?

Answer 1

By mindfully describing the urges, as opposed to voicing the urges directly

Question 2

What does the author mean by “no name-calling?”

Answer 2

People should not call each other names or say things that could be interpreted as putting someone down

Question 3

What are the consequences of communicating disrespect nonverbally?

Answer 3

The other person feels disrespected and may not listen to what is being said

Question 4

How can you show that you’re interested in what the other person has to say?

Answer 4

By listening to them and not interrupting

Question 5

How can you make sure that people have a positive experience interacting with you?

Answer 5

By acting interested in them and giving them time and space to respond to you

Question 6

What is the final GIVE skill?

Answer 6

An Easy manner

Question 7

What is the purpose of using humor?

Answer 7

To make people laugh

Question 8

How can you ease the other person along?

Answer 8

By being understanding and patient

Question 9

What are some examples of situations where using an easy manner can help create a comfortable atmosphere?

Answer 9

When the tension is thick, the moments seem to drag on, or it feels like walking near a land mine

Question 10

What do people not like?

Answer 10

Being bullied, pushed, or made to feel guilty

Question 11

What is self-respect effectiveness?

Answer 11

Acting in a manner that maintains or increases your self-respect after an interpersonal interaction

Question 12

How can excessive apologies hurt relationships?

Answer 12

They can make the person apologizing seem insincere

Question 13

What is the problem with many people’s views on selling out their values?

Answer 13

That they have black-and-white views on this issue: Either they are willing to sell out everything to get approval and liking (to give up their entire “selves,” it seems), or they interpret everything as an issue of values and view flexibility of any sort as giving up their integrity

Question 14

What is the conflict between what others want you to do and what your personal values tell you to do?

Answer 14

Doing what others want you to do and doing what you believe to be right

Question 15

What is the definition of self-respect effectiveness?

Answer 15

Acting in a way that increases or maintains your self-respect after an interpersonal interaction

Question 16

How can you say no to a request in a way that respects yourself?

Answer 16

By being assertive and firm, without being mean or emotional

Question 17

What are the consequences of lying?

Answer 17

Lying can lead to negative consequences, such as mistrust and deception

Question 18

What is the best path to self-respect?

Answer 18

Balancing what you want and what the other person wants and needs

Question 19

What is the final FAST skill?

Answer 19

To be Truthful

Question 20

What is the opposite of building mastery?

Answer 20

Acting helpless

Question 21

Can being honest with your thoughts always help a relationship?

Answer 21

No

Question 22

When is it effective to tell a lie?

Answer 22

When it is necessary to protect someone’s feelings

Question 23

What is the best way to maintain self-respect?

Answer 23

To balance giving and taking, and to be mindful of the impact that one’s actions have on relationships

Question 24

How might a person’s interpersonal effectiveness change as their life situation changes?

Answer 24

What works in one situation might not work in another

Question 25

What are the levels of asking and saying no?

Answer 25

Low intensity and high intensity

Question 26

How do you determine the intensity of asking or saying no?

Answer 26

By analyzing the situation

Question 27

What is an example of a situation where you would increase the intensity of asking if the other person is required by law or moral code to give you what you want?

Answer 27

Child support or alimony

Question 28

What should you do if giving in will get you short-term peace but not a long-term relationship you wish to have?

Answer 28

Increase the intensity of saying no

Question 29

How can wise mind be used as an additional factor when deciding whether to ask or say no and how intensely to push for what one wants?

Answer 29

To decide whether to ask or say no and how intensely to push for what one wants

Question 30

What does it mean to be in a wise mind?

Answer 30

Being able to take into account all of the relevant factors in a situation and weigh them appropriately