Cycle 13 - Flashcard Set 3
What is people pleasing behavior and what are some common causes of it?
People pleasing behavior is when individuals prioritize the needs and wants of others over their own, often stemming from anxiety or trauma.
How can anxiety-based people pleasing behavior manifest?
Anxiety-based people pleasing behavior can manifest when individuals feel anxious and worried about others being upset with them or not doing things correctly.
What is trauma-based people pleasing behavior and what can it stem from?
Trauma-based people pleasing behavior can stem from a fear of harm or abuse, leading individuals to fawn over others as a way to prevent harm.
Can trauma and abuse manifest in quieter forms and lead to people pleasing behavior?
Yes, trauma and abuse can manifest in quieter forms, such as emotional neglect, which can lead to people pleasing behavior as a way to gain attention or approval.
What are some reasons why people may engage in people pleasing behavior?
People pleasing behavior can stem from a discomfort with conflict and a desire for control over one’s environment.
Is it always easy to identify the root cause of people pleasing behavior?
No, it is not always easy to identify the root cause of people pleasing behavior, and therapy can be messy and not always provide clear answers.
What are some negative consequences of people pleasing behavior?
People pleasing behavior can lead to neglect of one’s own basic needs, such as sleep and nutrition.
What can individuals do to prevent slipping into people pleasing behavior?
Checking in on one’s own needs and taking care of oneself can help prevent slipping into people pleasing behavior.
What are some behaviors that may accompany people pleasing behavior?
People pleasing behavior can lead to over-apologizing, saying sorry for things that one is not actually sorry for, and apologizing for taking up space.
What techniques can help individuals with people pleasing behavior overcome anxious or dysregulated thought spirals?
Engaging in fact-checking and distraction techniques can help individuals with people pleasing behavior overcome anxious or dysregulated thought spirals.
What is the importance of healthy boundaries in overcoming people pleasing behavior?
Placing and upholding healthy boundaries can help individuals overcome feelings of responsibility for others’ emotions, which can contribute to people pleasing behavior.
What are some personal experiences shared by the speaker in the text?
The speaker has a tendency to apologize excessively to avoid conflict, struggles with worrying and lack of sleep, has a demanding job, and uses coping mechanisms to address her behavior.
