THOP5 Flashcards
Proposed that People who do not have their needs for love and
affection satisfied during childhood develop basic
hostility toward their parents and, as a consequence,
suffer from basic anxiety.
theorized that people combat basic anxiety
by adopting one of three fundamental styles of
relating to others: (1) moving toward people, (2)
moving against people, or
(3) moving away from people.
Karen Horney
If parents do not satisfy the child’s needs for safety and
satisfaction, the child develops feelings of ____toward
the parents.
basic hostility
Repressed hostility then
leads to profound feelings of insecurity and a vague sense of
apprehension. This condition is called _____
defined as “a feeling of being isolated and helpless
in a world conceived as potentially hostile”
basic anxiety
WHAT NEUROTIC TREND
it refers to a neurotic need to protect oneself against feelings of helplessness.
In their attempts to protect themselves against feelings of helplessness, compliantpeople employ either or both of the first two neurotic needs; that is, theydesperately strive for affection and approval of others, or they seek a powerfulpartner who will take responsibility for their lives. She referred to these needs as “morbid dependency,” a concept that anticipated the term “codependency.”
Moving Toward People
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
They try to live up the expectations of otherse, tend to dread self-assertion, and are quite uncomfortable wit hthe hostility of others as well as the hostile feelins within themselves.
The neurotic need for affection and approval.
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
Lacking self-confidence, neurotics try to attach themselves to a powerful aprtner. This need includes an overvaluation of love and dread of being alone or deserted. Horney’s own life story reveals a strong need to relate to a great man, and she had a series of relationships during her adult life.
The neurotic need for a powerful partner.
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
Neurotics frequently strive to remain insconspicuous, to take second place, and to be content with very little. They downgrade their own abilities and dread making demands on others.
The neurotic need to restrict one’s life within narrow borders.
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
Power and affection are perhaps the tow greatest neurotic needs.
Is usually combined with the needs for prestige and possession and manifests itself as the need to control otheres and to avoid feelins of weakness or stupidity.
The neurotic need for power.
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
Neurotics frequently evaluate others on the basis of how they can be used or exploited, but at the same time, they fear being exploited by others.
The neurotic need to exploit others.
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
Some people combat basic anxiety by trying to be first, to be important, or to attract attention to themselves.
The neurotic need for social recognition or prestige.
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
Neurotics often have a strong drive to be the best - the best salesperson, the best bowler, the best lover. They must defeat other people in order to confirm their superiority.
The neurotic need for ambition and personal achievement.
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
Neurotics have a need to be admired for what they are rather than for what they possess. Their inflated self-esteem must be continually fed by the admiration and approval of others.
They neurotic need for personal admiration
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
- Many neurotics have a strong need to move away from people, therby proving that they can get along without others. The playboy who cannot be tied down by any women exemplifies this neurotic need.
The neurotic need for self-sufficiency and idependence
WHAT NEUROTIC NEED
By striving relentlessly for perfection, neurotics receive “proof” of their self-esteem and persona superiority. They dread making mistakes and have personal flaws, and they desperately attempt to hid their weanesses from others.
The neurotic need for perfection and unassailability.
WHAT NEUROTIC TREND
aggressive people take for
granted that everyone is hostile.
Rather than moving toward people in a posture of submissiveness and
dependence, these people __ others by appearing tough or ruthless.
They are motivated by a strong need to exploit others and to use them for their own benefit. They seldom admit their mistakes and are compulsively driven to appear perfect, powerful, and superior.
Moving Against People
WHAT NEUROTIC TREND
These needs become neurotic when people try to satisfy them by compulsively putting emotional distance between themselves and other people.
Moving Away From People
The Idealized Self-Image
As neurotics come to believe in the reality of their idealized self, they
begin to incorporate it into all aspects of their lives—their goals, their self-
concept, and their relations with others. Horney (1950) referred to this
comprehensive drive toward actualizing the ideal self as
The Neurotic Search for Glory
The Idealized Self-Image
In their search for glory, neurotics
build a fantasy world—a world that is out of sync with the real world. Believing that something is wrong with the outside world, they proclaim that they are special and therefore entitled to be treated in accordance with their idealized view of themselves
The Neurotic Claims
The Idealized Self-Image
a false pride based not on a realistic view of the true self but on a spurious image of the idealized self.
The Neurotic Pride
Six major ways in which people express self-hatred
which are
exemplified by the tyranny of the should. For example, some people make
demands on themselves that don’t stop even when they achieve a
measure of success. These people continue to push themselves toward perfection because they believe they should be perfect.
relentless demands on the self,
Six major ways in which people express self-hatred
Neurotics constantly berate themselves. “If people only knew me, they
would realize that I’m pretending to be knowledgeable, competent, and
sincere. I’m really a fraud, but no one knows it but me.”
merciless self-accusation.
Six major ways in which people express self-hatred
which might be expressed as
belittling, disparaging, doubting, discrediting, and ridiculing oneself.
self-contempt,
Six major ways in which people express self-hatred
. stems from
self-hatred and is designed to actualize an inflated self-image. Neurotics are
frequently shackled by taboos against enjoyment. “I don’t deserve a new car.”
self-frustration
Six major ways in which people express self-hatred
by inflict harm or
suffering on themselves.
self-torment, or self-torture
Six major ways in which people express self-hatred
which may be either physical or psychological, conscious or unconscious, acute or
chronic, carried out in action or enacted only in the imagination. Overeating, abusing
alcohol and other drugs, working too hard, driving recklessly, and suicide are common
expressions of physical self-destruction.
self-destructive actions and impulses,
Feeling alienated from themselves, people need desperately to acquire a
stable sense of identity. This dilemma can be solved only by creating an
___an extravagantly positive view of themselves that
exists only in their personal belief system
idealized self-image,
