Insights from ‘The First Rule of Mastery’ by Michael Gervais Flashcards
What does FOPO stand for?
Fear of other people’s opinions.
True or False: FOPO can make it difficult to be decisive and focused.
True
Fill in the blank: ‘You will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how _____ they do.’
seldom
What psychological phenomenon makes people feel that others notice them more than they actually do?
The Spotlight Effect
Describe the Spotlight Effect.
It is the tendency to overestimate how much others notice and think about us, often believing we are being judged or observed more than we are.
In Thomas Gilovich’s experiment, what percentage of students thought their embarrassing shirt would be noticed?
0.5
What percentage of students actually noticed the embarrassing shirt in Gilovich’s experiment?
0.25
Why is it helpful to remember that people rarely focus on us?
It helps reduce anxiety and worry about judgment, freeing us to focus on personal goals and mastery.
According to the text, when should you assume people are thinking about you?
Only when they voice their opinions of you.
What is the purpose of the ‘screens’ mentioned in the text?
To filter out opinions that are not helpful or aligned with one’s values and purpose.
Name the three ‘screens’ that help filter others’ opinions.
Your purpose, your roundtable, your death.
What question can help apply the ‘purpose’ screen to filter out opinions?
Does this opinion align with my personal purpose or mission?
Fill in the blank: ‘Seeking approval is like seeking _____ in business.’
short-term profits
Who should sit at your ‘roundtable’?
People who want the best for you, whom you deeply respect, and who are not afraid to tell you the truth.
What question can help apply the ‘roundtable’ screen to filter out opinions?
Is this comment coming from one of the few people at my roundtable?
