NVC - Marshall Rosenberg Flashcards
When our loved ones can’t hear that we love them, we need to try again. We need to try another way.
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To truly love someone, you have to know what they love.
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Love means trying, not getting it right every time.
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We’re only one foot out of the jungle
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Humans are velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones.
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Our human tendency to have a negative bias is a huge contributor to relationship friction as we forget the good.
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You never do anything for her, only to fulfill your own needs
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Instead of saying you “have to” do something, reframe it to think about what are all the needs that you get to meet for yourself by doing this.
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“It’s never about the dishes”
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Listen to your partner as if they are giving you the best and most honest energy they can in the moment.
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How can I relate to her that actives her natural desire to want and care for me?
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Only Three Choices:
1) Self Empathy
2) Honesty and Vulnerability
3) Other Empathy
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Only see feelings and needs
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Every adversity holds in it a seed of positive growth.
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We cannot promise anything, we can only give our intention because we cannot predict the future.
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Can you hear the “please” even if it’s not said?
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You only feel the negative of what they are saying because you have the Jackal ears on.
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People can say criticisms/negative things, but you don’t have to hear it.
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Your filter of the world is the cause of your feelings. Change your filter, change your feelings.
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You should like conflict when it’s clean and from the heart and not filled with judgment, criticism, belittling, etc
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Most of the time, conflict intensity happens because stuff builds up over time vs handled in the moment.
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We are pack animals and need to feel safety, security, belonging because rejection is death.
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We are pack animals and need to feel safety, security, belonging because rejection is death.
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People react to the quality of your presence when expressing feelings.
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