Love by Leo Buscaglia Flashcards

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Love is a small book about the largest experience in the life of a human being.

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I find love much like a mirror. When I love another, he becomes my mirror and I become his, and reflecting in each other’s love we see infinity.

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Real love is a very human phenomenon.

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Love is a learned phenomenon

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If you have love, you can give it. if you don’t have it, you don’t have it to give.

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The loving individual has to care about himself.

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Everything is filtered through me, and so the greater I am, the more I have to give.

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Personality is the sum total of all the experience the we have known since the moment of conception to this point in our life alone with heredity.

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Education should be the process of eloping everyone to discover his uniqueness, to teach him how to develop that uniqueness, and then show him how to share it because that’s the only reason for having anything.

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Show me your difference so that maybe I can learn from them.

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Go into abstract thinking. Go into dreaming. Dream a while. Find something new.

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You are the best you. You will always be the second best anyone else.

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Words are a freezing of reality. - Dr Timothy Leary

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It’s time we realize we are educating children, not things.

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Buddhist taught me a fantastic thing. They believe in the here and the now. What is happening between you and me right now. If you live for tomorrow, which is only a dream, then all you are going to have is an unrealized dream. And the past is no longer real. It has value because it made you what you are now, but that is all the value it has.

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Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life. – Herbert Otto

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The opposite of love is not hate, it’s apathy. It’ not giving a damn.

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Birds never sing in caves. - Thoreau

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We have to be free in order to learn.

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We need to be free to create.

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The way you know something, really know it, it so experience it fully.

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There are ways to meet the needs of society and still do your own thing.

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Ask yourself this one question: Does this path have a heart?

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We are all functioning at a small fraction of our capacity to live fully in its total meaning of loving, caring, creating and adventuring. Consequently, the actualizing of our potential can become the most exciting adventure of our lifetime. - Herbert Otto

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Man “learns” to be human

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Love is a “learned response, a learned emotion.”

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One Cannot give what he does not posses. To give love you must possess love.

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One cannot teach what one does not understand. To teach love you must comprehend love.

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One cannot know what he doesn’t not study. To study love you much live in love.

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One cannot appreciate what one does not recognize. To recognize love you much be receptive to love.

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One cannot have doubt about that which they wish to trust. To trust love you must be convinced of love.

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One cannot admit what one does not yield to. To yield to love, you most be vulnerable to love.

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One cannot live what one does not dedicate themselves too. To dedicate yourself to love, you much before ever growing in love.

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Love is an emotion, that is true. But it is also a “response” to an emotion and, therefore, an “active” expression of what is felt.

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Each family member can teach only what they know of love.

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Long before birth, even before we are conceived, our parents have decide who we shall be. Jean-Paul Sartre

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Living is the process of continuous rebirth. _- Erich Fromm

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Man by nature is a social being

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STUDY: Skeels - orphaned children loved vs not loved and found loved when on to live great lives.

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No matter how much wee deny it, we deny that at every stage of life, we move towards others.

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We need others. We need others to love and we need to bee loved by them.

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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. - Corinthians 13

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There is perhaps no word more misused than love.

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The difference between saying “I love you” to a friend vs a lover is that if you said “I love you” to a friend, the friend would know exactly what you meant.

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Love is a learned, emotional reaction.

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One does not fall “in” or “out” of love. One grows in love.

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for love and the self are one and the discovery of either is the realization of both.

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Love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person. Love is an act of faith, and whoever is of little faith is also of little love. - Eric Fromm

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One loves because he wills it, because it gives him joy, because he knows that growth and discovery of oneself depend upon it.

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When you cease placing condition on your love, you have taken a giant step toward learning to love.

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Love is active, not passive.

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Love’s potential is limitless.

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Love teaches a man to show what he is feeling.

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Babies and dogs are common visitors to love class.

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Love isn’t afraid to feel.

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Love has a need to be expressed physically.

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It is only the “no” that love is reality.

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Love and the self re one.

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Love is now.

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Change is the end result of all true learning. Change involved three things: First, a dissatisfaction with self - a felt void or need. Second, a decision to change – to fill the void or need. Third, a conscious dedication to the process of growth and change.

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Humans might be the only living creature with the sufficient will and intelligence to choose happiness. How sad that we so often choose despair.

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As long as man has will, he will have some degree of control over his reactions, responses, and conclusions.

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All learning involves searching, finding, analyzing, evaluating, experiencing, accepting, rejecting, practice, and reinforcement.

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To learn to love is to be in constant change.

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Just because the message man never be received does not mean it issei’s not worth sending. - Segaki

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Barriers of love. In reality, they do not exist. They are, for the most part, simply excuses for no accepting the challenge of love.

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We tend to suspect a person of evil more readily than of good.

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There is a land of the living and a land of the dead. The bridge is love; the only truth, the only survival. - Thornton Wilder (The Bridge of San Luis Rey)

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When change confronts a person, they often use the excuse that the are too old to change.

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One must never be satisfied with their ability to love.

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A great deterrent to love is found in anyone who fears change, for growing, learning, and experiencing is change.

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Deterrent to love are man-made.

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We are one, after all, you and I, together we suffer, together exist, And forever will recreate each other. - Teilhard de Chardin

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To love others, you must love yourself.

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Herbert Otto says only 5% of our human potential is realized in our lifetime. Margaret Mead had hypothesized that 4% is discovered. What of the other 95%?

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Loving yourself involves the discover of the true wonder of you; not only the present you, but the many possibility of you.

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The trip into oneself is the grandest, most enjoyable, and longest lasting. The fare is cheap; it merely involves continual experiencing, evaluating, education, trying out of new behavior. Only you can be the final budget in determining what is right for you.

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Loving yourself involves appreciating the value of you above all things.

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You are the best you.

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When you realize you are th best you, you will accept the fact that others are the best they.

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Your Reality > Projection <> Perception > Their Reality – TK

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What new thing did you learn today?

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The effect of language on personality is now the science of psycholinguistics. How language affect behavior.

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If one wishes to be a lover, they must start by saying YES to love.

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Dag Hammarskjold wrote in his essay “Markings” “I don’t know who - or what - put the question, I don’t know when it was put. I don’t even remember answering. But at some moment I did answer “Yes” to Someone or something. And from that hour I was certain that existence is meaningful and that, therefore, my life, in self-surrender, had a goal.”

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Only when it is a duty to love, only then is love eternally and happily secured against despair. - Kierkegaard

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Only a deep relationship offers “the adventure of uncovering the depth of our love, the height of our humanity. It means risking ourselves physically and emotionally; leaving old habit patterns and developing new ones; being able to express our desires fully, while sensitive to the needs of the others being aware that each changes act their own rate, and unafraid to ask for help when needed.”

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Loving all people is the same as loving each person.

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Antoine Saint-Exupery has defined love was “the process of my leading you back to yourself.”

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I will love you as long as I can help you grow in love. This is the essence of loving another, to assure them that we are dedicated to their growth, to the actualization of their limitless potential. The couple is determined to use their united energies to help each other through the endless process fo discovering who they really are, then revel forever in this continually changing knowledge and discovery.

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Real love is dedicated to a continual becoming.

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Another responsibility of love is to create joy. Joy is always an integral part of loving.

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As soon as the love relationship does not lead me to me, as soon as I, in aa love relationship, do not lead the other person to themselves, this love, even if it seems to be the most secure and ecstatic attachment I have ever experienced, is not true love.

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If I were to die tomorrow, how would I live tonight.

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Responsible love is empathic. It means too “feel” with. It does not imply “total understanding.”

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It is not a matter of forgiving. Forgiving, in a sense, is condescending. It is a matter fo accepting the person unconditionally for what they are at that moment.

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A lover is constantly watching, listening, waiting, feeling, adjusting, readjusting, and changing.

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If two people grow apart in love, it is usually due to the fact that one or the other refuses to grow or change.

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Love is always an active sharing. If one has love to give, he may impart it to all in the world and he will still have the same love he started with. We never lose anything by sharing it.

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The future away the problem, the less we feel the responsibility. (Classroom experiment and .10 cents to one of three causes (famine overseas, poor student go to college, new classroom printer. 85% to the printer, 12% to poor student, 3% to overseas. Proximity Bias)

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Hope is a powerfully creative force.

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Hope is the beginning of plans. It gives men a destination, a sense of direction for getting there, and the energy to get started. - Norman Cousins

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Hope is a beginning. Love is forever.

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A mind not to be change by place or time, the mind is its own place, and in itself can make a Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven. - John Milton

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Human’s basic psychological needs are: To be seen, recognized, appreciated, heard, touched, sexually satisfied.

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To add to the confusion, words often mean different things to different people.

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Love listens. Love hears.

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Physical love is necessary for happiness, growth and development.

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Love is not sex, though sensual gratification in varying degrees is always a part of love.

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Love needs freedom.

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Does this path have a heart?

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112
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Where paths cross there is union. Where they run parallel there is peace, provided that each path loves and honors the other.

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Love never gives direction, for it knows to lead a person off their path is to give them our own path which will never be truly right for them and is certain to “weaken” them. They must be free to go their own way, in their own chosen manner, and their own special rate. They must be free to make their own mistakes and learn from them whaat they can.

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Our love is there to give him sustenance, the strength to continue his seeking securely, in joy, and offer him the day-buy-day encouragement he will require. Any ads we give is only directed in helping him to find the self which he has long since been seeking. Love is the guide, not the leader.Each person is their own leader.

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He has his path and love encourages him on his way, even if his path does not intersect with our desired path. To hold him to what we believe to be the right path for him is to lead him into darkness and as Thoreau says, “Birds never sing in caves.”

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Too often, man is so taken up with what others believe or will think or stay, that he stops listening to what he believes.

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To live in love is life’s greatest challenge.

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A person’s main ruction is to help unfold their true self.

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119
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A person must also equally help others to become strong, and perfect themselves as unique individuals.

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120
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A person must see the forces labels “evil” as emanating from suffering people who, like themselves, are “human” and in the process of attempting perfect their “beings”

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A person much combat the forces fo evil through an active love which is deeply concerned and interested in each person’s free quest for self-discovery.

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A person much believe that it is not the world that is ugly, bitter, and destructive, but it is what uss humans have done to the world that makes it appear so.

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A person must learn that they cannot be loved by all people.

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A person much be able to forgive themselves for being less than perfect.

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A person must understand that if they are the world’s finest plum and someone they love does not like plums, then they have the choice of becoming a banana. But they must be warned that if they choose to become a banana, they will be a second rate banana. But they can always be the best plum.

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A person must realize that if they choose to be a second rate banana, they run the risk of the loved one finding them second best, and wanting only the best, might discard them.

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…and we ourselves shall be loved for a while and forgotten. But the love will have been enough; all those impulses of love return to the love that made them. Even memory is not necessary for love. There is a land of the living and a land of the dead, and the bridge is love, the only survival, the only meaning. - Thornton Wilder

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Vulnerability is always at the heart of love.

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The most human thing we have to duo in life issei’s to learn to speak our honest conviction and feelings and live with the consequences. – Father William Du Bay.

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