Lecture 8: Interdependence Part 1 Flashcards
interdependence
- Exists when we need others and they need us to obtain valuable rewards
- Behaviours of each partner affect the outcomes of the other
interdependence theory
- Explains how partners in a relationship influence each other’s experiences and outcomes
- Derived from social exchange theory
social exchange theory
- Relationship partners are rational actors engaged in cost-benefit analyses
- Relationships begin when you give me some of what I want and I give you some of what you want
- We are driven to maximize rewards & minimize costs
social exchange
the process in which two people give and take desirable rewards from each other
outcomes formula
outcome = rewards - costs
interpreting outcomes
- If rewards > costs, net positive outcome
- If rewards < costs, net negative outcome
rewards
- Any of the ways a relationship may satisfy our needs & desires, something that is gratifying & pleasant
- Can be tangible or intangible
costs
- Any of the ways a relationship may prevent us from meeting our needs & desires, something that is punishing/frustrating
- Can be tangible or intangible
opportunity cost
the cost of not pursuing a possible reward
do all relationships have costs?
yes
how do we evaluate our outcomes?
- The same outcome may not necessarily lead to the same amount of satisfaction for different people
- When it comes to satisfaction, we evaluate the outcomes we receive relative to what we expect from our relationships
comparison level (CL)
personal standard; what we feel we deserve
satisfaction formula
Satisfaction = outcomes - CL
interpreting satisfaction
- If our satisfaction is positive, then we’re happy
- If our satisfaction is negative, then we’re unhappy
- We can be dissatisfied even if the relationship is highly rewarding and satisfied if the relationship is costly
sacrifice
giving up one’s own immediate preferences/ goals for the good of the partner or the relationship
impact of sacrifice on the relationship
- Perceiving that a partner has sacrificed can lead to increased appreciation with potentially positive consequences for the relationship
- But, it may depend on experiences around sacrifice
interdependence theory daily diary study
perceiving a partner’s sacrifice led to an increase in partner appreciation and relationship satisfaction only if the recipient’s expectations were low (positive expectancy violation)
interdependence theory daily diary study takeaway
even if a relationship is profitable and rewarding, you may not be satisfied if the profit isn’t big enough to meet your expectations
determining CL
everyone has their own CL
CL is influenced by
- Previous relationship experiences (how others have treated us in the past)
- Observing others’ relationships (personal experience or the media)
- Personality dispositions (attachment orientation, self-esteem)
what makes people stay together?
- Partners’ satisfaction with the relationship is a fairly small predictor of staying together over time
- There are also other factors involved in the decision
dependence
how free a person feels to leave the relationship (how strongly tied a person is to another)