Lecture 8: Interdependence Part 1 Flashcards
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interdependence
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- Exists when we need others and they need us to obtain valuable rewards
- Behaviours of each partner affect the outcomes of the other
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interdependence theory
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- Explains how partners in a relationship influence each other’s experiences and outcomes
- Derived from social exchange theory
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social exchange theory
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- Relationship partners are rational actors engaged in cost-benefit analyses
- Relationships begin when you give me some of what I want and I give you some of what you want
- We are driven to maximize rewards & minimize costs
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social exchange
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the process in which two people give and take desirable rewards from each other
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outcomes formula
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outcome = rewards - costs
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interpreting outcomes
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- If rewards > costs, net positive outcome
- If rewards < costs, net negative outcome
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rewards
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- Any of the ways a relationship may satisfy our needs & desires, something that is gratifying & pleasant
- Can be tangible or intangible
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costs
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- Any of the ways a relationship may prevent us from meeting our needs & desires, something that is punishing/frustrating
- Can be tangible or intangible
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opportunity cost
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the cost of not pursuing a possible reward
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do all relationships have costs?
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yes
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how do we evaluate our outcomes?
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- The same outcome may not necessarily lead to the same amount of satisfaction for different people
- When it comes to satisfaction, we evaluate the outcomes we receive relative to what we expect from our relationships
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comparison level (CL)
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personal standard; what we feel we deserve
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satisfaction formula
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Satisfaction = outcomes - CL
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interpreting satisfaction
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- If our satisfaction is positive, then we’re happy
- If our satisfaction is negative, then we’re unhappy
- We can be dissatisfied even if the relationship is highly rewarding and satisfied if the relationship is costly
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sacrifice
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giving up one’s own immediate preferences/ goals for the good of the partner or the relationship
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impact of sacrifice on the relationship
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- Perceiving that a partner has sacrificed can lead to increased appreciation with potentially positive consequences for the relationship
- But, it may depend on experiences around sacrifice
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interdependence theory daily diary study
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perceiving a partner’s sacrifice led to an increase in partner appreciation and relationship satisfaction only if the recipient’s expectations were low (positive expectancy violation)
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interdependence theory daily diary study takeaway
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even if a relationship is profitable and rewarding, you may not be satisfied if the profit isn’t big enough to meet your expectations
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determining CL
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everyone has their own CL
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CL is influenced by
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- Previous relationship experiences (how others have treated us in the past)
- Observing others’ relationships (personal experience or the media)
- Personality dispositions (attachment orientation, self-esteem)
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what makes people stay together?
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- Partners’ satisfaction with the relationship is a fairly small predictor of staying together over time
- There are also other factors involved in the decision
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dependence
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how free a person feels to leave the relationship (how strongly tied a person is to another)
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determining dependence
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A function of how our outcomes in a given relationship compared to possible alternative outcomes (how well you think you could do elsewhere)
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dependence formula
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Dependence = outcomes- CL alt
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interpreting dependence
- If dependence is positive, then stable
- If dependence is negative, then unstable
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comparison level for alternatives
- What we realistically expect we could get in another relationship or situation/ other alternatives currently available
- Includes other partners or being single
- The standard against which we decide whether to stay or leave
- The lowest level you will tolerate from your partners
- If you think we can do better in another relationship, we’re likely to leave our present partners and pursue bigger payoffs, even when we’re currently happy with what we’ve got
- If we’re currently unhappy in a relationship, we won’t leave it unless a better alternative presents itself
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factors affecting CL alt
- Individual differences
- Cultural and structural factors
- Opportunity to encounter alternatives
- Motivated reasoning
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barriers
all of the forces outside of the relationship that act to keep partners together
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investments
resources tied to the relationship that would be lost if the relationship were to end
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impact of barriers and investments on the relationship
- Both reduce the attractiveness of leaving a current relationship
(i.e. factored into our CL alts)
- Our CL alts include both rewards & costs of leaving a relationship
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4 relationship types
- happy and stable
- unhappy and unstable
- unhappy and stable
- happy and unstable
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happy and stable relationship
- outcomes exceed both CL and CL alt
- It doesn’t matter if CL or CL alt is higher
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unhappy and unstable relationship
outcomes are below both CL and CL alt
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unhappy and stable relationship
outcomes are below CL but above CL alt
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happy and unstable relationship
outcomes are below CL alt, but above CL
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relative impact of rewards and costs
- Research suggests that the valuation of rewards & costs is more complicated
- Costs may be particularly influential because they carry more psychological weight
- We pay more attention to costs and remember costs more than rewards
- Roughly 5x greater influence
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gottman's research
- Brought couples into the lab and asked them to discuss a sore spot in their relationship
- They coded this interaction for various types of negative and positive behaviours
- They found that high-risk couples for divorce engaged in more negative behaviours than positive behaviours
- The opposite was found for low-risk couples
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sacrifice detection
A reward has to be noticed to enter into our calculations
We may not notice all of the kind things our partners do for us
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Daily diary study of sacrifices method
data collected from both members of the couple allows researchers to compare the partner data and see how often sacrifices are detected vs. missed
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hit
the perceiver correctly detects that a sacrifice was made
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miss
the perceived does not detect that a sacrifice was made when it was
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false alarm
the perceiver perceives a sacrifice when there is not one
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correct rejection
a sacrifice does not occur and is not perceived
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Daily diary study of sacrifices findings
- Thinking that the partner has made a sacrifice (rightly or wrongly) boosts gratitude
- But individuals miss their partners’ sacrifices about 50% of the time
- Missed sacrifices leave sacrificing partners feeling underappreciated & dissatisfied
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individual differences in approach vs. avoidance motivations
- Chronic strength of approach & avoidance motivations differs between individuals
- This has implications for processing social information
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implications of avoidance motivation
- Biases attention toward negative stimuli
- Enhances memory for negative stimuli
- Increases negative construals of ambiguous/neutral events
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implications of approach motivation
- Biases attention toward positive stimuli
- Enhances memory for positive stimuli
- Increases positive construals of ambiguous/neutral events
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approach motivations and sacrifice
- Make your partner happy, grow intimacy in the relationship
- This led to more positive affect, greater relationship & life satisfaction, less conflict, and less chance of breaking up 1 month later
- Perceiving one’s partner as sacrificing for approach reasons was associated with more positive affect, life & relationship satisfaction
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avoidance motivations and sacrifice
- Avoid disappointment or conflict
- This led to more negative affect, less relationship & life satisfaction, and more conflict
- Perceiving one’s partner as sacrificing for avoidance reasons associated with less positive affect, life & relationship satisfaction
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approach motivation
gain positive outcomes
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avoidance motivation
avoid negative outcomes
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flourishing relationships
approach and avoidance goals are fulfilled
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precarious relationships
approach goals are fulfilled but avoidance goals are not
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distressed relationships
approach and avoidance goals are not fulfilled
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boring relationships
approach goals are not fulfilled, but avoidance goals are
