Lecture 8: Interdependence Part 1 Flashcards

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interdependence

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  • Exists when we need others and they need us to obtain valuable rewards
  • Behaviours of each partner affect the outcomes of the other
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interdependence theory

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  • Explains how partners in a relationship influence each other’s experiences and outcomes
  • Derived from social exchange theory
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social exchange theory

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  • Relationship partners are rational actors engaged in cost-benefit analyses
  • Relationships begin when you give me some of what I want and I give you some of what you want
  • We are driven to maximize rewards & minimize costs
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social exchange

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the process in which two people give and take desirable rewards from each other

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outcomes formula

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outcome = rewards - costs

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interpreting outcomes

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  • If rewards > costs, net positive outcome
  • If rewards < costs, net negative outcome
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rewards

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  • Any of the ways a relationship may satisfy our needs & desires, something that is gratifying & pleasant
  • Can be tangible or intangible
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costs

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  • Any of the ways a relationship may prevent us from meeting our needs & desires, something that is punishing/frustrating
  • Can be tangible or intangible
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opportunity cost

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the cost of not pursuing a possible reward

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do all relationships have costs?

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yes

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how do we evaluate our outcomes?

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  • The same outcome may not necessarily lead to the same amount of satisfaction for different people
  • When it comes to satisfaction, we evaluate the outcomes we receive relative to what we expect from our relationships
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comparison level (CL)

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personal standard; what we feel we deserve

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satisfaction formula

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Satisfaction = outcomes - CL

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interpreting satisfaction

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  • If our satisfaction is positive, then we’re happy
  • If our satisfaction is negative, then we’re unhappy
  • We can be dissatisfied even if the relationship is highly rewarding and satisfied if the relationship is costly
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sacrifice

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giving up one’s own immediate preferences/ goals for the good of the partner or the relationship

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impact of sacrifice on the relationship

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  • Perceiving that a partner has sacrificed can lead to increased appreciation with potentially positive consequences for the relationship
  • But, it may depend on experiences around sacrifice
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interdependence theory daily diary study

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perceiving a partner’s sacrifice led to an increase in partner appreciation and relationship satisfaction only if the recipient’s expectations were low (positive expectancy violation)

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interdependence theory daily diary study takeaway

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even if a relationship is profitable and rewarding, you may not be satisfied if the profit isn’t big enough to meet your expectations

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determining CL

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everyone has their own CL

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CL is influenced by

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  • Previous relationship experiences (how others have treated us in the past)
  • Observing others’ relationships (personal experience or the media)
  • Personality dispositions (attachment orientation, self-esteem)
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what makes people stay together?

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  • Partners’ satisfaction with the relationship is a fairly small predictor of staying together over time
  • There are also other factors involved in the decision
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dependence

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how free a person feels to leave the relationship (how strongly tied a person is to another)

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determining dependence

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A function of how our outcomes in a given relationship compared to possible alternative outcomes (how well you think you could do elsewhere)

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dependence formula

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Dependence = outcomes- CL alt

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interpreting dependence

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  • If dependence is positive, then stable
  • If dependence is negative, then unstable
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comparison level for alternatives

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  • What we realistically expect we could get in another relationship or situation/ other alternatives currently available
  • Includes other partners or being single
  • The standard against which we decide whether to stay or leave
  • The lowest level you will tolerate from your partners
  • If you think we can do better in another relationship, we’re likely to leave our present partners and pursue bigger payoffs, even when we’re currently happy with what we’ve got
  • If we’re currently unhappy in a relationship, we won’t leave it unless a better alternative presents itself
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factors affecting CL alt

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  • Individual differences
  • Cultural and structural factors
  • Opportunity to encounter alternatives
  • Motivated reasoning
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barriers

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all of the forces outside of the relationship that act to keep partners together

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investments

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resources tied to the relationship that would be lost if the relationship were to end

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impact of barriers and investments on the relationship

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  • Both reduce the attractiveness of leaving a current relationship
    (i.e. factored into our CL alts)
  • Our CL alts include both rewards & costs of leaving a relationship
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4 relationship types

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  • happy and stable
  • unhappy and unstable
  • unhappy and stable
  • happy and unstable
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happy and stable relationship

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  • outcomes exceed both CL and CL alt
  • It doesn’t matter if CL or CL alt is higher
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unhappy and unstable relationship

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outcomes are below both CL and CL alt

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unhappy and stable relationship

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outcomes are below CL but above CL alt

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happy and unstable relationship

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outcomes are below CL alt, but above CL

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relative impact of rewards and costs

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  • Research suggests that the valuation of rewards & costs is more complicated
  • Costs may be particularly influential because they carry more psychological weight
  • We pay more attention to costs and remember costs more than rewards
  • Roughly 5x greater influence
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gottman’s research

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  • Brought couples into the lab and asked them to discuss a sore spot in their relationship
  • They coded this interaction for various types of negative and positive behaviours
  • They found that high-risk couples for divorce engaged in more negative behaviours than positive behaviours
  • The opposite was found for low-risk couples
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sacrifice detection

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A reward has to be noticed to enter into our calculations
We may not notice all of the kind things our partners do for us

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Daily diary study of sacrifices method

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data collected from both members of the couple allows researchers to compare the partner data and see how often sacrifices are detected vs. missed

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hit

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the perceiver correctly detects that a sacrifice was made

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miss

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the perceived does not detect that a sacrifice was made when it was

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false alarm

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the perceiver perceives a sacrifice when there is not one

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correct rejection

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a sacrifice does not occur and is not perceived

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Daily diary study of sacrifices findings

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  • Thinking that the partner has made a sacrifice (rightly or wrongly) boosts gratitude
  • But individuals miss their partners’ sacrifices about 50% of the time
  • Missed sacrifices leave sacrificing partners feeling underappreciated & dissatisfied
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individual differences in approach vs. avoidance motivations

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  • Chronic strength of approach & avoidance motivations differs between individuals
  • This has implications for processing social information
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implications of avoidance motivation

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  • Biases attention toward negative stimuli
  • Enhances memory for negative stimuli
  • Increases negative construals of ambiguous/neutral events
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implications of approach motivation

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  • Biases attention toward positive stimuli
  • Enhances memory for positive stimuli
  • Increases positive construals of ambiguous/neutral events
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approach motivations and sacrifice

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  • Make your partner happy, grow intimacy in the relationship
  • This led to more positive affect, greater relationship & life satisfaction, less conflict, and less chance of breaking up 1 month later
  • Perceiving one’s partner as sacrificing for approach reasons was associated with more positive affect, life & relationship satisfaction
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avoidance motivations and sacrifice

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  • Avoid disappointment or conflict
  • This led to more negative affect, less relationship & life satisfaction, and more conflict
  • Perceiving one’s partner as sacrificing for avoidance reasons associated with less positive affect, life & relationship satisfaction
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approach motivation

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gain positive outcomes

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avoidance motivation

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avoid negative outcomes

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flourishing relationships

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approach and avoidance goals are fulfilled

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precarious relationships

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approach goals are fulfilled but avoidance goals are not

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distressed relationships

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approach and avoidance goals are not fulfilled

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boring relationships

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approach goals are not fulfilled, but avoidance goals are