Lecture 21: Therapeutic Approaches to Relationship Maintenance & Repair Flashcards
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what is couple’s therapy
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- Therapy with two people
- Historically, a married couple
- Nowadays, couples therapy methods have been applied to many close relationships, such as unmarried dating couples, central couples in a polyamourous network, and
friends/ workplace relationships
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clinical considerations in couple’s therapy
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- Agreeing on goals
- Keeping secrets: confidentiality agreement with two individuals
- Involving other family members
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why go to couple’s therapy?
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- Feeling stuck in a harmful relationship dynamic
- Could be new or a pattern across relationships
- Wanting support navigating a transition or difficult conversation
- Sexual dysfunction
- Individual mental helath concerns (most often used for PTSD)
- Positive psychology reasons
- Build insight, strengthen the relationship
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why deny couple’s therapy to specific clients?
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- Individual concerns
- Intimate partner violence
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cultural considerations in couple’s therapy
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Western ideals of love and heteronormative definitions of love, are not the basis of every committed relationship
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three theoretical approaches to couple’s therapy
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- the gottman method
- solution-focused couple’s therapy
- emotion-focused couple’s therapy
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development of Gottman’s couple’s therapy
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- Dr. John Gottman & Dr, Robert Levenson
- Filmed live interactions and measured physiological changes (ex. skin conductance, blood velocity, gross motor activity, heart rate) to assess emotionality
- Longitudinal studies with replications
- Followed couples for up to 20 years
- Many types of dyad studies
- Repeated measurements of both subjective and objective outcomes (ex. marital satisfaction, happiness, conflict behaviours, emotionality, and relationship status in couples)
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gottman research findings
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- Couples are very stable: 80% stability in conflict behaviours and marital satisfaction
- Most relationship problems did not get solved without intervention: 69% were perpetual problems based on personality differences
- Lots of fun stats: couples that stay together have 5 positive interactions for every negative interaction
- Defined meta-emotion: the way people feel about emotions
- Found that differences in meta-emotion drove a lot of conflict
- Defined several common relationship dynamics and conflict behaviours, and identified which were related to outcomes of interest
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antidotes to the four horsemen
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- Criticism: “I” statements
- Contempt: be respectful! Deliberately integrate more statements of appreciation and care into conversation
- Defensiveness: take responsibility, even for just a small part of an ongoing problem
- Stonewalling: take breaks of at least 20 minutes during conflicts when one partner feels overwhelmed, and then return to continue problem-solving
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components of Gottman’s couple’s therapy
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- Based on observational findings (not an overarching theory)
- Consists of:
1. Assessment: couple + therapist
2. Individual sessions + questionnaires
3. Build a sound relationship house
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the sound relationship house
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- build love maps
- share fondness and admiration
- turn towards instead of away
- the positive perspective
- manage conflict (accept your parnter’s influence, dialogue about problems, practice self-soothing)
- make life dreams come true
- create shared meaning
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Gottman therapy is best used for:
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- Couples who want to increase relationship skills
- Couples who want to fix relationship issues
- People who are “psychologically minded”: want to learn psychological constructs and tools
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Gottman therapy is not suited for:
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- Treating individual issues/understanding either individual better
- Mental health issues, domestic violence
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takeaways from Gottman therapy
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- Huge evidence-basis for types of conflict
- Specific, evidence-based replacement behaviours
- Not theory-driven
- Therapy materials are hidden behind a paywall
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solution-focused couple’s therapy (SFCT)
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- Developed by Steve de Shazer & Insoo Kim Berg (marreied couple)
- Goal-oriented (solution-focused)
- Based on positive psychology and behavioural interventions
- Strength-based
- Action-oriented
- Little to no focus on the problem/mechanisms of the problem
- Focus on identifying resources clients have and using them
- Collaborative therapy with no expert in the room
- Patients are the experts themselves
- The therapist provides or identifies concrete interventions/solutions
- Socratic questioning is used to keep conversation concrete and measurable as much as possible
- Firmly grounded in behaviourism, positive psychology orientation