Lecture 1: Our Longing for Social Connection Flashcards

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emotional life events

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  • Our most intense emotional experiences tend to be interpersonal (relationship-focused) rather than independent (self-focused)
  • ~ 3.59/5 participants listed the most negative and positive emotional events in their lives as interdependent
  • The general finding holds across different age groups, and periods (ex. Month vs. lifetime), and is true of both men and women
  • Interdependent events were also rated as having a stronger, longer-lasting emotional impact
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independent vs. interdependent events

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Even seemingly self-oriented independent events (ex. Achievement-oriented stresses or successes) may not be truly independent

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the need to belong

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Human beings have a fundamental need to form and maintain at least a minimum quantity of lasting, positive, and significant interpersonal relationships

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fundamental

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  • Essential, indispensable, integral, intrinsic
  • Something that would have to come programmed in
  • Suggests an evolutionary perspective
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natural selection

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the process through which certain traits become more or less common in a population over time

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3 components of natural selection

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  1. variation
  2. heredity
  3. differential fitness
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variation

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within a population of organisms, there is variation in traits or characteristics

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heredity

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some of this variation is passed down from parents to offspring through genetic inheritance

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differential fitness

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not all individuals in a population survive and reproduce equally

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adaptations

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  • Favourable traits better suited to the environment that increase chances of survival & reproduction
  • These favourable traits gradually accumulate over generations
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issues with natural selection

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  • inclusive fitness
  • Selection happens at the level of the gene, not the individual
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inclusive fitness

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  • Success in passing on one’s genes to the next generation
  • Comprises both individual survival & reproduction and impact on the survival and reproduction of genetic relatives
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environment of evolutionary adaptedness

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the ancestral environment to which a species is adapted

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how did group living benefit humans evolutionarily?

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  • Help hunting large game & foraging
  • Sharing food
  • Defensive vigilance and greater strength against predators and hostile outgroups
  • Help caring for offspring
  • Access to mates
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testaments to the life-sustaining benefits of belonging

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  • Babies
  • The Shanidar, a disabled Homo neanderthalensis who lived into his 40s by receiving help from others
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the need to belong and reproduction

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Those who were more motivated to belong would be more likely to survive, passing on those belonging-inclined genes

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cross-cultural evidence of universality

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  • People in every society on Earth naturally gravitate towards small primary groups
  • People become attached to even meaningless groups
  • People around the world experience profound distress when their relationships are threatened or lost
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cross-species evidence for universality of the fundamental need to belong

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  • Research on baboon BFFs (determined based on how long they spend grooming each other)
  • Female baboons with stronger & more stable social bonds live longer
  • They also have a better chance of their offspring surviving
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evidence for the fundamental need to belong

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  • cross-cultural evidence of universality
  • cross-species evidence of universality
  • one perspective on emotion argues that we share the same basic emotional brain circuitry with other animals
  • we don’t have social experiences, we actively construct social experiences
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how is the fundamental need to belong universal?

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all around the world, social bonds:
- Are easy to form
- Hard to break
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- We suffer when relationships end or when we lack relationships

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characteristics of intimate relationships

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  1. knowledge
  2. interdependence
  3. caring
  4. trust
  5. responsiveness
  6. mutuality
  7. committment
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knowledge

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extensive, very personal

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interdependence

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impact each other in frequent, strong, diverse, and enduring ways

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caring

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affection

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trust

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expect to be treated well

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responsiveness

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feeling that one’s partner understands, respects, and appreciates one

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mutuality

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“us” vs. “me” and “them”

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commitment

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the expectation that the relationship will continue and one will continue to invest in the relationship

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Sternberg’s triangular theory of love

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love is made up of 3 components, which can range from low to high: passion, intimacy, and commitment

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passion

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  • Physical arousal, desire, excitement, and need
  • Usually includes sexual desire
  • Typically the difference between “loving” and “being in love”
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intimacy

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  • Feelings of closeness, connection, and warmth
  • Emotional component
  • Warm/emotional component
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commitment

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  • Permanence, stability, and the desire to maintain the relationship
  • Cold/cognitive component
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kinds of love

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  • nonlove
  • liking
  • infatuated love
  • empty love
  • romantic love
  • companionate love
  • fatuous love
  • consummate love
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nonlove

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  • intimacy, passion, and commitment are all absent/low
  • Ex. casual, superficial relationship
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liking

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  • intimacy is high; passion and commitment are low
  • Ex. many friendships
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infatuated love

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  • passion is high; intimacy and commitment are low
  • Ex. love at first sight
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empty love

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  • commitment is high; intimacy and passion are low
  • Ex. burned-out relationships, arranged marriages
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romantic love

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  • high intimacy and passion, but not high commitment
  • Can lead to commitment, but not necessarily
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companionate love

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  • high intimacy and commitment, but low passion
  • Ex. long, happy marriages
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fatuous love

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  • high passion and commitment, but low intimacy
  • Ex. whirlwind courtships
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consummate love

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  • high intimacy, passion, and commitment
  • Highly sought after, but may be hard to maintain over time