Gaslighting Reading Flashcards

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gaslighting

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a sane and rational survivor is convinced of their own epistemic incompetence on false pretenses by a perpetrator

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is gaslighting intentional?

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It is unclear how intentional gaslighting is

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what is the best solution to gaslighting?

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to end the relationship

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Four most common behaviour patterns that occurred in gaslighting relationships

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  • love-bombing
  • isolating the survivor
  • prepetrator unpredictability
  • cold shouldering
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love-bombing

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inappropriate expressions of affection for the relationship stage

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functions of love-bombing

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Discounted perpetrator’s abusive behaviour, made survivors feel indebted to the perpetrator, made survivors confused about the nature of the relationship

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isolating the survivor

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often plays out through the expression of negative opinions about members of the survivor’s social circles

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functions of isolating the survivor

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helps perpetrators avoid accountability, results in survivors having fewer paths to fulfill social needs, contributes to survivor’s sense of “losing their grip on reality”

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perpetrator unpredictability

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a pattern of perpetrators unpredictably changing their behaviour from one emotional extreme to the other

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function of perpetrator unpredictability

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contributes to the target’s experience of uncertainty and confusion

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Cold shouldering (stonewalling)

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the absence of communication

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function of cold-shouldering

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communicates to survivors that they are out of sync with what is reasonable and controls their behaviour

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common gaslighting behaviours

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  • Insults and accusations
  • Blaming
  • Turning the tables
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turning the tables

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changing the topic of conversation toward some perceived bad behaviour of the survivor

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motivations for gaslighting

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  • Avoiding accountability (ex. For infidelity)
  • Control
  • Mixed motivations
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Consequences of gaslighting for the survivor

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  • Diminished sense of self
  • Increased guardedness
  • Increased mistrust of others
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what do gaslighting survivors emphasize?

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the importance of separation from the perpetrator, time with others, prioritizing healthier relationships, and engaging in meaningful and re-embodying activities

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demographics of gaslighting perpetrators

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  • Perpetrators of gaslighting tend to be older, Caucasian, and heterosexual males
  • These demographics are associated with more social power
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material goals and gaslighting

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Perpetrators rarely attempt to achieve some kind of explicit or material goal

20
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timespan of gaslighting

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Gaslighting occurs over a relatively long timespan

21
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Gaslighting experience in romantic relationships (GERR) model

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  1. the relationship starts
  2. gaslighting cycle
  3. insight and recovery
22
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the relationship starts

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gaslighting is initiated with some form of love-bombing

23
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gaslighting cycle

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maintained via three, interacting, and powerful feedback loops

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3 feedback loops

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  1. Rationalization and motivation
  2. Rationalization and isolation
  3. Rationalization, isolation, and psychological consequences
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insight and recovery
begins with the realization and acceptance that their partners are gaslighters, which allows survivors to reconceptualize their perpetrator’s actions and disrupt the gaslighting cycle