Chapter 5: Communication Flashcards

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table talk

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a research procedure that involves rating whether the message you are sending to your partner is positive or negative on a 5-point Likert scale and then having your partner rate their interpretation of it

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benefit of table talk as a research procedure

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it allows researchers to get a record of both your private thoughts and public actions

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table talk findings

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The impact of unhappy couples’ messages tends to be more negative

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simple model of interpersonal comunication

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  1. sender’s intentions (private and known only to the sender)
  2. sender’s actions (public and observable by anyone)
  3. effect on the lister (private and known only by the listener)
    * between each stage, noise, inference, and the sender’s style of encoding/ listeners style of decoding can influence the message
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interpersonal gap

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  • When the sender’s intentions differ from the effect on the receiver
  • More likely to occur in close relationships
    Leads to relationship dissatisfaction
  • Can prevent rewarding relationships from beginning
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functions of nonverbal communication

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  1. providing information
  2. regulating interaction
  3. defining the nature of the relationship
  4. interpersonal influence
  5. impression management
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providing information

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a person’s behaviour allows others to make inferences about his or her intentions, feelings, traits, and meaning

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regulating interaction

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nonverbal behaviour provides cues that regulate the efficient give-and-take of smooth conversations and other interactions

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defining the nature of the relationship

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the type of partnership two people share may be evident in their nonverbal behaviour

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interpersonal influence

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goal-oriented behaviour designed to influence someone else

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impression management

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nonverbal behaviour that is managed by a person or a couple to create or enhance a particular image

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facial expressions

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Spontaneous facial expressions signal people’s moods

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are emotions innate or learned?

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Cross-cultural similarities in basic emotions suggest that they’re innate

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correlates of happy expressions

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Happy expressions are correlated with success in life

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why do people sometimes deliberately manage their facial expressions

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display rules

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display rules

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cultural norms that dictate what emotions are appropriate in particular situations

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Four ways we can modify our expressions

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  1. intensify
  2. minimize
  3. neutralize
  4. mask
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intensify

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exaggerating our expressions so that we appear to be experiencing stronger feelings than we really are

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minimize

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trying to seem less emotional than we really are

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neutralize

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trying to withhold our true feelings altogether

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mask

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replacing our feelings with an entirely different emotion

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fake vs. real expressions

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Fake expressions usually differ from authentic expressions

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microexpressions

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authentic flashes of real emotion that are visible during momentary lapses of control when one is trying to fake emotions

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pupils and looking behaviour

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Our pupils dilate when we’re looking at something that interests us

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eye contact and relationships

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When others make eye contact, they signal that we are the target of their attention

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gazing and relationships

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  • Gazing helps define the nature of a relationship
  • The more intimate the relationship, the more time people spend gazing into one another’s eyes
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typical looking behaviour during conversations

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People usually look at their conversation partners more when they’re listening than when they’re speaking

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Visual dominance ratio (VDR)

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compares the “look-speak” to “look-listen”

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typical VDR

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40/60

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high-power VDR

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60/40

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function of body movement

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Body movements support our verbal communication, making it easier for us to convey what we mean

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are gestures innate?

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no, gestures have different meanings in different languages

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body movement as a status symbol

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High-status people tend to adopt asymmetric postures and take up a lot of space, while low-status people adopt symmetric postures and take up less space

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what body posture is considered most attractive?

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Men and women find expansive body posture more attractive because it is more indicative of confidence

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touch and relatonships

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  • Different types of touches have different meanings
  • Positive feelings engender touches that are different from those that communicate disgust
  • People tend to touch each other more when their relationship is intimate
  • Loving touches are good for our health
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interpersonal distance

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the physical space that separates two people that is usually reserved for intimate interactions

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4 types of interpersonal distance

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  • Intimate zone (1.5 feet <)
  • Personal zone (1.5-4 feet)
  • Social zone (4-12 feet): - Public zone (12+ feet): interactions tend to be quite formal
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Intimate zone (1.5 feet <)

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either be loving or hostile interactions

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Personal zone (1.5-4 feet)

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friendships and acquaintances

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Social zone (4-12 feet)

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interactions tend to be more business-like

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Public zone (12+ feet)

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interactions tend to be quite formal
Asian countries routinely use larger distances

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cross-cultural differences in interpersonal space

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  • Asian countries routinely use larger distances
  • In warmer countries, people tend to prefer closer distances when they interact with strangers and larger distances with intimate partners than people in cooler climates
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gender differences in interpersonal distance

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Women tend to like larger distances than men

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smell and relationships

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  • Different emotions cause people to release different chemicals from their bodies
  • We are affected by chemosignals
  • Smelling happy chemosignals makes us more happy
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paralanguage

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  • All the variations in a person’s voice other than the actual words they use
  • About how people say things
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gaining information from voices

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Our voices provide better information about what we’re feeling than our facial expressions do

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gender and voice

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  • Women speak in a higher pitch when talking to their lovers and men speak in a lower pitch
  • Women’s voices become more attractive during ovulation
  • Women prefer men with lower voices
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combing aspects of nonverbal communication

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  • The components of nonverbal communication work together to convey consistent information about one’s intentions
  • Nonverbal behaviour allows us to fine-tune the intimacy of our interactions
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non conscious behavioural mimicry

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  • All of the methods of nonverbal communication can be involved in nonconscious behavioural mimicry
  • People tend to like others more when their behaviour is being mimicked by their conversation partner (s), even if they don’t consciously realize it
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nonverbal sensitivity

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The sensitivity and accuracy with which couples read, decode, and correctly interpret each other’s nonverbal behaviour predicts how happy their relationship will be

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gender differences in nonverbal sensitivity

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  • Women are better encoders and decoders of information than men in general
  • Men seem to be worse at nonverbal communication due to both skill and motivation
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nonverbal sensitivity studies

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  • In one study, men in troubled marriages did a poor job encoding and decoding their wives’ communication, but the same trend was not found for women
  • In another study, both the husbands and wives in an unhappy marriage understood strangers better than they understood each other
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nonverbal insensitivity as a vicious cycle

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Nonverbal insensitivity and dissatisfaction can become a vicious cycle, with each exacerbating the other

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problems with nonverbal sensitivity stem from either

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  1. skill deficits
  2. performance deficits
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can we improve at nonverbal communication?

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Everyone can improve at nonverbal communication if they try

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self-disclosure

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  • The process of revealing personal information to someone else
  • One of the defining characteristics of intimacy
57
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ways people can become closer to each other

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  • breadth
  • depth
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social penetration theory

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holds that relationships develop through systematic changes in communication

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breadth

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the variety of topics they discuss

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depth

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the personal significance of the topics they discuss

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opener scale

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assess the ability of people to elicit self-disclosure from others
Early encounters typically involve reciprocity in self-disclosure

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interpersonal process model

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argues that general intimacy is likely to develop between two people only when certain conditions have been met

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3 conditions of interpersonal process model

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  1. People have to engage in meaningful self-disclosure
  2. They have to respond to each other’s disclosures with interest and empathy
  3. Perceived partner responsiveness
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perceived partner responsiveness

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They have to recognize that the other is being responsive

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secrets in relationships

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People generally keep secrets in relationships to protect themselves, their relationships, or others

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taboo topics in relationships

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  • Sometimes, partners will agree to steer clear of taboo topics
  • The most taboo topic is the state of the relationship
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triangle test

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watch closely to see how their lover responds to other attractive people

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endurance test

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contrive difficulties that the lover must overcome to demonstrate their devotion

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separation test

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find reasons to be apart and see how enthusiastically their lovers welcome their return

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taboo topics and relationship satisfaction

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The more taboo topics there are in a relationship, the less satisfied the partners are unless they’re avoiding the topics to promote and protect their relationship

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self-disclosure and relationship satisfaction

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  • The more self-disclosure couples share, the happier they tend to be
  • We like people more because we have self-disclosed to them, and we self-disclose to people we like
  • It’s rewarding to be entrusted with self-disclosures from other
  • Those who self-disclose more have better health and greater life satisfaction
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secure attachment and communication

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  • People with secure attachment styles exhibit warmer and more expressive nonverbal behaviour
  • Secure people are more affectionate and keep fewer secrets than insecure people
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avoidance of intimacy and communication

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Those who are high on avoidance of intimacy tend to engage in less self-disclosure, decode others’ expressions of positive emotions less accurately, and judge others’ negative emotions to be more intense and hostile than they really are

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anxiety about abandonment and communication

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Those who are high in anxiety about abandonment are more talkative and self-disclose too much too soon

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gender differences in verbal communication

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  • Women are more likely to discuss their feelings about their close relationships and other personal aspects of their lives
  • Men tend to stick to more impersonal matters, so their conversations tend to be less intimate
  • When men and women interact with each other, these differences are less apparent
  • Women are more indirect and speak less forcefully than men
  • Women speak more often than men but produce fewer monologues
  • Women are more self-disclosing than men and score higher on the “Opener” scale
  • Heterosexual men share their most meaningful intimacy only with women
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what explains gender differences in verbal communication

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Communication differences are more associated with gender roles than biological sex

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kitchen-sinking

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addressing several topics at once, which causes one’s primary concern to get lost in the barrage of frustrations

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off-beam

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conversations that wander from topic to topic

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mindreading

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occurs when people assume that they understand their partners’ thoughts, feelings, and opinions without asking

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yes-butting

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finding something wrong or un-workable with anything their partners say

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cross-complaining

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failing to acknowledge others’ concerns

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belligerence

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aggressive rejection

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The four horsemen of the apocalypse

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4 criteria that emphasize that the end of a relationship is near

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four horsemen of the apocalypse

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criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling

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critcism

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attacks a partner’s personality or character instead of identifying a specific behaviour that is causing concern

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contempt

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insults, mockery, or hostile humour

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defensiveness

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seeking to protect oneself from an unreasonable attack by making excuses or hurling counterattacks

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stonewalling

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withdrawal into a stony silence

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miscommunication patterns of unhappy couples

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  • They do a poor job of saying what they mean
  • They do a poor job of hearing each other
  • They display negative affect when they talk to each other
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behaviour description

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tells our partners what’s on our minds and focuses the conversation on discrete, manageable behaviours that can readily be changed

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I-statements

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statements that start with “I” and then describe a distinct emotional reaction

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xyz-statements

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statements that follow the form of “When you do X in situation Y, I feel Z.”

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two tasks when we’re listening

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  • Accurately understand what our partner is trying to say
  • Communicate attention and comprehension
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how can we accomplish the two tasks of listening?

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paraphrasing

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paraphrasing

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repeating a message in our own words and giving the sender a chance to agree that that’s actually what they meant

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perception checking

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people assess the accuracy of their inferences about a partner’s feelings by asking the partner for clarification

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negative affect reciprocity

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when people are contemptuous of each other with each being scornful of what the other has to say

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how to stay cool?

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  • Anger results from the perception that others are causing us illegitimate, unfair, or unavoidable grief
  • We can reframe this perception to reduce or prevent anger
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validation

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acknowledging the legitimacy of others’ opinions and communicating respect for their positions

100
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using validation to minimize conflict

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We don’t have to agree with others, but showing respect and validation for their opinions will minimize conflict