Life Coaching: Need For Coaching Flashcards
capitalism
opportunity + responsibility = success
The mentality of I can do it
socialism
provision + equality = success
The mentality of someone has to do it for me - lack of ownership
provisions tend to create more problems than it solves, incentivizes the problem
How does Coaching help people succeed?
By helping them take ownership for their life.
what are the main contributors to the need for coaching?
- Someone should do it for me culture
- The loss of a Biblical, positive work ethic
- Breakdown of support systems
- Rise of Affluence
- ADD culture
- Self-Absorbed Culture
- Many conflicting voice
- Lack of discipline.
Why should I work?
- Because of need
Proverbs 16:26 The appetite of the laborer works for them; their hunger drives them on.
2 Thes 3:10 Even when we were with you we gave you this rule: The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.
- Because of want
Exodus 20:17 You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor - Made up need
Proverbs 6:6-8 6 Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise : 7 Which having no guide, overseer , or ruler , 8 Provideth her meat in the summer, [and] gathereth her food in the harvest. - Obligation
1 Timothy 5:8 8 But if someone does not provide for his own, especially his own family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. - opportunity
Ecclesiastes 11:6 Sow your seed in the morning, and at evening let not your hands be idle, for you do not know which will succeed, whether this or that or whether both will do equally well. - Riches
Proverbs 10:4 Lazy people are soon poor; hard workers get rich
Proverbs 14:23 All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty - Satisfaction
Ecclesiastes 2:24-25 24 There is nothing better for people than to eat and drink,
and to find enjoyment in their work. I also perceived that this ability to find enjoyment comes from God 25 For no one can eat and drink or experience joy apart from him. 26 For to the one who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge, and joy,
but to the sinner, he gives the task of amassing wealth
only to give it to the one who pleases God. This task of the wicked is futile—like chasing the wind!
God’s Purpose
! Corinthians 9:26 I run with purpose in every step I take, I am not just shadow boxing.
Colossians 3:17
17 And whatever you do, whether by speech or action, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Colossians 3:23-24
3 Whatever you do, work at it wholeheartedly as though you were doing it for the Lord and not merely for people. 24 You know that it is from the Lord that you will receive the inheritance as a reward. It is the Lord Messiah whom you are serving!
Purpose of riches
Independence
Proverbs 10:4 The leech has two daughters “Give! Give!” they cry.
To help others
Ephesians 4:28 Anyone who has been stealing, must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need.
How does affluence affect the need for coaching
proverbs 30:8-9
Give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread. Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you and say ‘Whos is the Lord?’ Or I may become poor and steal, and so dishonor the name of my God.
The increase of affluence brings increased freedom of choice, that is resulting in being stuck not knowing what to choose.
Self absorbed culture
2 Timothy 3:2-4 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.
ADD culture
Culture of distraction
Matthew 9:36 When he saw the crowds, the had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless like sheep without a shepherd
Many conflicting voices
Isaiah 30:21 Whether you turn right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is way; walk in it”
Discipline
The act of delaying gratification in the hopes of a better future reward.
The great project of modernity
The great project of modernity, is freedom, understood as independence from social and religious coercion.
it is a subjective turn in the history of modern culture, in terms of a turn from external authorities to the self as a source of significance.
Utilitarian individualism
The purpose of life:
To pursue your dreams. To maximize your self-interest relative to their given ends. Thus, it is highly compatible with market capitalism.
Ethics
Ethics is primarily understood in terms of procedures of fair exchange (between self-maximizing individuals), and freedom is understood as freedom to pursue one‘s interests.
Success
realizations of your own interests and desires
examples
- independent citizen,
- the self-made entrepreneur, -the successful manager (or organizational leader)
expressive individualism
The purpose of life
To give expression to your true inner self.
View of human beings:
- Humans are inherently good
- human beings are defined by their individual psychological core, and that the purpose of life is allowing that core to find social expression in relationships.
Success:
- lIving authenticly,
- living life your way, unbounded by unchosen obligations or commitments.
ethics:
- This inner voice is morally authoritative and defines the route forward to realizing the authentic self.
- Tolerance: Living by one’s own light, allowing others to do the same.
- The truth about the self is thus not determined externally, and sometimes must be pursued counter-culturally, over and above the mores of one’s community.
- The highest good is individual freedom, happiness, self-definition, and self-expression.
Traditions, religions, received wisdom, regulations, and social ties that restrict individual freedom, happiness, self-definition, and self-expression must be reshaped, deconstructed, or destroyed.
5.Any deviation from this ethic of tolerance is dangerous and must not be tolerated.
ethics:
- authenticity
- open and honest communication and ―fair psychological exchange.
Slogans: You be you. Be true to yourself. Follow your heart. Find yourself.
examples:
new age gurus
hippies
What are the broader implications of self conception
A society’s understanding of the notion of “self” has broad implications for the cultural, moral, and political spheres. The modern notion of self, which can be called “expressive individualism,” to use Robert Bellah’s term, lies at the heart of current cultural conflicts, including abortion, pornography, the ethics of life and death, radical racial politics, freedom of speech, and freedom of religion. Expressive individualism holds that human beings are defined by their individual psychological core, and that the purpose of life is allowing that core to find social expression in relationships. Anything that challenges it is deemed oppressive. Building a society based on a true understanding of the human person begins with an acknowledgement of the situation in which we find ourselves.
