Counseling: Sexual Sin Flashcards
What is the proper context for understanding sex?
The gospel context, which is neither legalism, nor hyper-grace
Why is hyper-grace not grace?
Because true grace flows into holiness (being separate from sin)
Hyper-Grace is an excuse used to indulge in the lusts of the flesh, it becomes a license to sin.
Feeble attempts to deal with sin?
Trying to defeat sin:
- in our own effort
- by letting go and letting God (deliverance)
- just trying to stop
- trying to please and indulge in our sin at the same time
What should our response convey to a counselee who is struggling with sin?
There is always help and hope in christ
We should never condemn the counselee, or make them feel ashamed
3 questions to ask if people don’t want to tell you what they are struggling with?
- Is it criminal?
- Is it sexual in nature?
- Does it involve someone else that you don’t want me to know about?
What happens when you start to suppress the word of God, God, and righteousness in a society?
People are unable to discern between wrong and right, and so those things that are wrong, seem right and normal
suppressing the truth leads us down the abyss described in Romans 1, which ends in destruction
Are there more than two genders?
No, only male and female.
Gen 1:27
So God created human beings[a] in his own image. In the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
Not simply genitalia, but chromosomes xx and xy, therefore in every cell in our body, we are either male or female.
Is sex something that is shameful?
No, God commanded it and called it “very good.”
Gen 1:28
28 Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”
Gen 1:31
Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good!
Is sex for everyone?
Sex is for married people only.
Gen 2:24
Key old testament passages about sex
Gen 1:27-31 Gen 2:24-25 Gen 4:1, 17 1 Sam 1:19 Prov 2:16-19, 5:15-20;6:20-35, 7:1-27 Song of Solomon
Key new testament passages about sex
Hebrews 13:4 1 Tim 4:1-3 1 Thess. 4:3-5 Eph 5 1 Cor 6:12-7:5 Mark 6:18 Rom 1:24-28
What is the importance of being content?
discontent often spills over into our marriages, resulting in discontent with our spouses, which in turn could result in adultery and sexual immorality
Hebrews 13:4-5
4 Give honor to marriage and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.
5 Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God has said,
“I will never fail you.
I will never abandon you.”[b]
The distortions of God’s design
- Pre-marital sex (neither person is married)
- Adultery (one person is married)
- Homosexuality
- Sodomy
- Incest
- Rape
- Prostitution
- Mental immorality (Pornography, Voyeurism)
- Autoeroticsm
- Exhobisionism
- Beastiality
- Gender dysphoria
- SadoMasichism
- Fetishism
- Pedophillia
secular vs biblical view: Freedom
Freedom:
- Secular: comes from within AKA “authenticity”
- Bible: derived from the gospel
Secular vs Biblical View: Authority
Authority
- Secular: comes from within and is subjective
- Bible: Comes from God and is objective
