Chapter 11 Flashcards
What is societal double standards acknowledged in?
Societal double standards acknowledged in forming pairs for friendship, intimacy and sexual expression.
• Assumptions challenged in contemporary dialogue
What are power imbalances influenced by?
Power imbalances are influenced by thoughts related to judgements others might make for their chosen sexual behaviours
Individuals may not be aware of these influences at a personal level while dating and ultimate when making monogamous, longer-term pairings
How do young adults explore their sexuality?
Making choices about the various types of relationships that are available in the “interpersonal marketplace”
Coming to an understanding of who you are and who you are interested in forming an intimate relationship with over the longer term
Perhaps challenging one that may have been prescribed to you
– Family
– Religious doctrine
– Cultural beliefs
What leads individuals to better understanding themselves ?
Experience and maturation lead individuals to better understand themselves and what they are looking for:
– In a dating partner
– in a sexual partner
– in a partner for shorter term relationships
– In a partner for longer term relationships
what are the 4 things included in sexual development ?
Learning about your sexual likes and dislikes
- sexual orientation
Communicating with sexual partners
Becoming responsible about sex - safer sex practices
Developing personal capacity for sexual intimacy
- beyond casual sex or manipulative sex
What is heterosexism?
The belief that heterosexuality is the only legitimate, acceptable, and healthy way for people to be
- Society is heteronormative -Linked to homophobia
- Homophobia is life threatening
What is chaste?
Abstaining from sexual intercourse
- Aka abstinence
- Celibacy may be used in a religious context
- Young and virgin, religious oath are those who use this
What is singleism?
The Stigmatizing and stereotyping of people who are not in a socially recognized couple relationship
What types of people are chaste?
Includes voluntary and involuntary:
Virgins
-Choice
-Waiting until marriage
Singles
Aromantic/Asexual identification
Partnered, but abstinent
- choice
- medical circumstances
Who are adults that aren’t married?
Includes adults who have never married voluntarily or by circumstance (involuntary)
Miscellaneous narratives constructed by individuals and society
Single, but not chaste
42% of single Canadians engage in sexual intercourse at least once per week
If you are single in society what different issues can arise depending on what?
Age
Gender
Cultural background Societal norms
Is the language the same to describe single males vs single females?
Yes
Males: bachelor, playboy guys guys, married to his work
Females: desperate, feminist, lesbian, workaholic
What is common law?
if in a conjugal relationship at least one year
-cohabitation
What is LAT?
Living Apart Together (LAT)
Finances
Geography
Family obligations
Enjoy independence
What is LDR?
Long Distance Relationship (LDR)
Stressful
Positive communication behaviours essential
What are the relationship scripts?
Single
Monogamy
-Widowed/Divorced/Separated
Serial Monogamy
-Partnering in a monogamous relationship without marrying -Preference for one partner
followed by one or more similar types of relationships
How do the opportunities to meet someone vary through age?
College years best chance because eveyrone is out and about
As you get older and have more responsibilities and family obligations it gets herder for people to go out and that pool of people decreases
What has online dating done?
Expanded potential dating pool
what % of single adults have visited online dating sites and how many are there?
40%
more than 1000
What are the advantages of internet dating?
Many sites use personality trait inventories to
match community members
Create a profile Saves time (vetting)
Areas (communities) for all types of commitment levels and sexual orientation
What is speed dating?
Often in urban centres, attended by busy professionals, parents etc
– high density population
Singles rate their “mini-dates” and if matches are made on paper, the organizing body will provide mutual email addresses
What are the innovations in dating?
Singles tours, cruises, adventure travel
- Ability to identify other singles who wish to engage in casual sex, relationship development, future marriage etc.
- Ability to meet people at similar stages of life, with similar interests
Why is there so much invested in the dating world?
majority of people want to be paired,
-95% of adults in Canada will marry