Oct 1 Flashcards
what’s the best predictor of relationship stability?
commitment
3 components of commitment
- affective
- cognitive
- conative
affective component of commitment
psychological attachment to relationship
cognitive component of commitment
taking a long-term orientation
conative component of commitment
intention to persist in the relationship
affective component: as interdependence grows, become…
increasingly susceptible to strong EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES triggered by partner
may not be fully aware of extent to which this happens
may be surprised by the impact of separation
affective component: quote examples
“I feel very strongly linked to my partner - very attached to our relationship”
“I am very affected when things aren’t going well in the relationship”
cognitive component: imagining…
oneself being involved with the partner in the future
making plans
adoption a shared identity
cognitive component: quotes
“I’m oriented toward the long-term future of this relationship (eg. I imagine being with my partner several years from now”
“my partner and I joke about what things will be like when we’re old”
conative component is the _______ component
motivational
intention to persist
conative component: quotes
“I intend to stay in this relationship”
“I feel inclined to keep our relationship going”
navigating turbulence of interdependency
in interdependent situations, will inevitably encounter situations where partners’ need conflict
relational turbulence model
relational turbulence model
period of turmoil & dips in satisfaction
as partners ADJUST to NEW interdependence
- relationships begin with MASSIVE CLIMB in satisfaction
- and then DIP as relationship settles
- friction, planning around partner
- misunderstandings - but then SETTLES with adjustment
consequences of commitment: commitment can be conceptualized as…
a TRANSFORMATION of MOTIVATION
shifting away from selfish motivations to focus on broader relationship concerns
think in terms of “us” instead of “me” and “them”
what’s good for the partner is good for the self - reduces cost of sacrifice, derive benefit from partner’s positive outcomes
thinking in terms of “us” instead of “me” and “them”
signals a transformation of motivation
from selfish concerns to relationship concerns
this shift:
- reduces the cost of ascrifice
- benefits are derived from partner’s positive outcomes
motivated reasoning
process info in a way that supports relationship maintenance
- faults into virtues
- seeing one’s relationship as better than everyone else’s
- unwarranted optimism about the future
- greater perceptions of control over the relationship
- more benign interpretations of negative acts