7. Stop Fighting and Start Surrendering Flashcards
What 2 things does Sara say regarding willpower?
- It doesn’t work.
- It’s finite, so you don’t have enough to fight porn.
What does using willpower do to the urge?
It makes it stronger.
Instead of using willpower, we want to do more…
Surrendering.
What analogy does Sara use to contrast willpower and surrendering?
Willpower is like trying to keep someone out of the room by slamming the door shut on them. Surrendering is like letting that person in the room. They may yell at you, but you don’t have to do what they say.
Surrendering is not the same as (blank) to the voice.
Giving in.
What are we trying to surrender to?
The emotion that is beneath the urge.
What example does Sara give of surrendering?
If loneliness is the underlying emotion, we surrender and allow ourselves to fully feel that loneliness.
As humans, we are supposed to feel (blank) at least half the time.
Negative emotions.
Negative emotions aren’t the problem, it’s the…
Need to escape from negative emotions that is the problem.
When we surrender, the negative emotion gets…
Smaller.
When we fight the negative emotion, it gets…
Stronger.
To what scriptural figure and event does Sara relate this act of surrendering.
Christ and the Atonement. Christ surrendering to the fullness of human experience, he did not fight it.
