17. What to Do When You Slip Up Flashcards
What you do after you slip will determine…
Whether you quit for good or not.
What things don’t work long-term (3 things)?
- Willpower
- Accountability apps
- Meeting with leaders
What does Sara relate willpower to?
Trying to rebuild a fence around a wild tiger.
What is the alternative to rebuilding the fence around the tiger?
Train the tiger, you may get scratched and bitten in the beginning, but eventually you will tame it, and it will become your pet.
What are Bishops for?
Spiritual healing, not teaching you to train your brain out of a porn habit.
What is the 1st step for when you slip up?
Notice the emotion that comes to the surface when you slip up (without believing all of it), become the observer of your mind.
What is the 2nd step for when you slip up?
Write down what happened.
What should you write down after messing up (2 things)?
- The triggers and situation.
- Your thoughts and justifications.
What is the 3rd step for when you slip up?
Forgive yourself.
What happens when guilt isn’t released?
It turns to shame.
How do you dismiss guilt?
Forgiveness.
What is the 4th step for when you slip up?
Decide what to do next time.
