3. Fixing the Root of the Problem: Identity Flashcards
1
Q
To quit porn, what must happen to our identity?
A
Identity shift.
2
Q
In order to stop watching porn, you have to stop seeing yourself as…
A
Someone who struggles with porn.
3
Q
Identity change is a (blank), it doesn’t happen (blank).
A
Process, overnight.
4
Q
What happens if we don’t consciously choose our identity?
A
Our circumstances will choose it for us.
5
Q
At our core, what is our relationship to porn?
A
We don’t struggle with it.
6
Q
What are limiting beliefs?
A
False beliefs that keep you from quitting porn.
7
Q
What are 5 examples of common limiting beliefs?
A
- I’m not strong enough.
- It’s too hard.
- I like it.
- I need this until I get married.
- It’s normal to watch porn.
8
Q
What is guilt?
A
“I did something wrong.”
9
Q
What is shame?
A
“There is something wrong with me.”
10
Q
Shame is (blank) when trying to quit porn.
A
Useless.
