6. All or Nothing Thinking

Question 1

What is the All-or-Nothing Mindset?

Answer 1

“Since I already failed today/this week, I may as well give up.” Or, “I’m not all-in, so I may as well not try.”

Question 2

What is the problem with counting streaks?

Answer 2

When the streak ends, you feel like you’re back at square 1. But that isn’t true.

Question 3

Instead of going back to square 1, what is a good analogy for when you mess up?

Answer 3

It’s like Super Mario Bros. Dying doesn’t bring you back to the beginning of the game, but actually helps you figure out how to beat the level.

Question 4

How should we feel about failure?

Answer 4

It’s not a big deal, it just shows us what we need to work on.

Question 5

Quitting porn is a process of (blank); so you need to be ok with (blank).

Answer 5

1. Learning new skills.
2. Trying new things, failing, and trying again.

Question 6

How does Sara define success?

Answer 6

By number of urges processed, not days without failure.