19. Sexual Shame Flashcards
What is sexual shame?
Feeling terrible for being a sexual being.
Who does sexual shame tend to affect?
Religious individuals with more conservative background.
What does sexual shame cause us to do?
Hide from God, partner, or self.
Describe shame cycle (4 steps):
- Use porn.
- Shame yourself for porn use.
- Feel bad from shame.
- Use porn to avoid bad feelings.
What question should we ask ourselves regarding sexual shame?
“Does God like the results of this sexual shame?”
Feeling shame for being a sexual being is like feeling shame for feeling…
Hungry.
Where does shame come from?
Our thoughts.
What should we do with our thoughts that cause shame?
Be curious about them. Question them.
Where does our sexuality come from?
From being human. It is a God-given gift.
You are responsible for what you (blank), not what you (blank).
Do, think.
Sexual feelings do not equal…
Unwanted sexual action.
What kinds of tactics should you avoid when quitting porn?
Fear-based tactics.
Why are fear-based tactics unhelpful when trying to quit porn?
Fear leads to shame.
What does Sara say about the scripture saying sexual sin is next to murder?
She believes it means that leading people away from Christ is next to murder, not sexual sin.
What does Sara believe about masturbation?
It’s normal and healthy, but you still don’t have to engage in the practice if you don’t want to.
