20. 50-50

Question 1

What is the 50-50 concept?

Answer 1

Life is 50% positive and 50% negative always. Never will be different, ever.

Question 2

What does the 50-50 concept get rid of?

Answer 2

The added suffering of telling yourself “I shouldn’t be feeling this way” whenever you feel bad.

Question 3

Sara used to say, “All I want in life is to be happy.” What does she say now?

Answer 3

“I want the full extent of human life. I want to experience the fullness of negative and positive emotions.”

Question 4

We use our buffers to fix…

Answer 4

The 50% negative side of life.

Question 5

What will lead us to no longer need buffers?

Answer 5

If we no longer need to drop the 50% negative side of life, but we fully embrace it.

Question 6

Buffers are net-(blank).

Answer 6

Negative.

Question 7

How are buffers net-negative?

Answer 7

If you use porn to escape loneliness, when you’re done, you still feel lonely, and all the negative side-effects from porn use.

Question 8

What is Sara’s response to “why should I quit, then?”

Answer 8

Humans want to grow and change. You can get a different 50-50 to experience the fullness of human life.