1. Fixing the Root of the Problem

Question 1

What are 3 reasons many people believe they can’t quit porn?

Answer 1

1. Believing they aren’t strong enough
2. Porn is everywhere
3. Something’s wrong with your sex drive

Question 2

What is the real reason you haven’t been able to quit porn?

Answer 2

You’ve been given the wrong information.

Question 3

What are 3 examples of band-aid solutions?

Answer 3

1. Filters
2. Running away from the porn
3. Pushing it out of your mind (hymn, scripture)

Question 4

What type of behavior is porn?

Answer 4

A buffer.

Question 5

What is a buffer?

Answer 5

Something you do to escape a negative emotion that creates a net-negative effect.

Question 6

What are 4 examples of emotions we buffer from?

Answer 6

1. Stress
2. Shame
3. Boredom
4. Loneliness

Question 7

Why do you use porn, instead of other things, as a buffer?

Answer 7

You’ve trained your brain to do so.

Question 8

What are 4 examples of other buffers?

Answer 8

1. Alcohol
2. Drugs
3. Over-eating
4. Social Media

Question 9

Why don’t buffers work (2 reasons)?

Answer 9

1. The negative emotion that you are running from typically comes back stronger after the buffer.
2. The urge to buffer will be stronger the next time.

Question 10

Regarding buffers, what is the question you should ask yourself?

Answer 10

“What am I desiring, and how can I get it without the buffer?”

Question 11

What should you do when you feel an urge?

Answer 11

Start writing.

Question 12

What are the 2 things you can do to respond to negative emotions?

Answer 12

1. Try to get what you want in non-buffer ways, but also
2. Learn to sit with those negative emotions.