4. Stop Fearing Urges Flashcards
What is an urge?
A feeling of desire.
What should our relationship be towards urges and why?
Not afraid of them: They are a normal part of being human and are very simple to sit with.
What are thoughts?
Sentences in your brain.
What do thoughts cause?
Feelings.
What should you do when you feel an urge (4 Steps)?
- Drop into body.
- Breath into it.
- Use descriptive words to explain the urge.
- Ask yourself, “Why can’t I sit with this feeling?”
No matter the sensation, you can (blank) with it.
Sit.
What is the strategy when describing an urge?
Imagine explaining the urge to an alien.
What type of language should you use when describing the urge?
Neutral language.
What analogy did Sara use when describing our response to an urge?
Like your child crying at the grocery store for a candy bar.
What are the 2 improper responses and the 1 proper response to your child crying at the grocery store?
Don’t yell at him, don’t give him what he wants. Get down on his level, express your love for him, but that you won’t give him the candy bar because it’s not good for him.
Responding to an urge is a chance to give yourself…
Unconditional love.
Sara recommends that we (blank) our urges.
Count.
