What is love Flashcards
Beverly Fehr asked Canadian students to list as many features of love as they could in 3 minutes
Students’ lists commonly included:
* Caring
* Happiness
* Friendship
* Warmth
* Trust
* Commitment
* Euphoria
* Sexual passion
* Heart rate increases
Three Essential Components of
(Romantic) Love
- passion
- intimacy
- commitment
Defining Love
Love - “a strong attachment to or
affection for someone” (White, 1999, p. 175)
“Intense feelings, emotions and thought, coupled with sexual passion and erotic expression that a person directs towardanother, as well as the ideology (set of beliefs) that upholds it”
Other Forms of
Affection/Attraction
Liking - “a milder form of affection”
Infatuation - “a strong attraction to another person based on an idealized picture of that person”
Love Scale
idealization?
like scale (70’s)
realibility
collegues
Love as Chemistry
The ‘high’ of passionate love occurs due to a surge of neurotransmitters: DA, NE, PEA
o PEA (phenylethylamine) acts like
amphetamines
o Develop tolerance
o Loss of love feels like withdrawal
video
infatuation(paxao) > attachment
Love as a Resource
love = an expression of
affectional regard, warmth or
comfort
Something that can be used as
an interpersonal resource
Love as a Social Construct
historically attitudes toward love have varied on 4 dimensions:
o Cultural value – desirable/undesirable?
o Sexuality– sexual/nonsexual?
o Sexual orientation – heterosexual/homosexual?
o Marital status – love spouse or others?
Examples:
Ancient Greece – platonic love, love between 2 men,non sexual
12th century courtly love, heterosexual between knight and
married woman, nonsexual
Passionate love – 18th century (not with spouse); 20th century
(with spouse)
just recently people marry for love
Love as a Process
Reiss’s Wheel Theory of Love
need fulfillment > rapport > self-revelation> mutual dependacy > need fufiilment.
when u feel the need (he considers love)
