Deception and Betrayel

Question 1

Deception

Answer 1

Intentional behavior that creates
an impression in the recipient that
the deceiver knows is false

Question 2

Types of Deception

Answer 2

• Concealing information
• Diverting attention
• Telling half-truths
• Making false statements - lying

Spouses are more likely to conceal
information than make false
statements

not tell rather then lie

Question 3

Lies and Relationship
Type

Answer 3

We tend to lie less in our intimate relationships than to our acquaintances UNLESS the subject
of the lie is a serious one

Question 4

Deceiver’s Distrust

Answer 4

When people lie to others, they may begin to perceive the recipients of the lies as less honest and trustworthy

• Believe others are like them – they
  lie too (have deceitful motives)
• This is a way to feel better about
  oneself - believing others have the
  same faults as you do

Question 5

How to Catch a Liar continued

Answer 5

• There is no one ‘tell’
• Look for discrepancies
  between verbal and non-verbal behavior
• Look for changes in a partner’s typical behavior patterns

Question 6

Truth Bias

Answer 6

In intimate relationships we
generally assume our partners are telling the truth, therefore, even though we should be better at
detecting changes in demeanor,
we ignore these changes.

Overall, we’re not good at
detecting lies!

Question 7

Betrayal

Answer 7

Hurtful actions by people we trusted and from whom we reasonably did not expect such treachery

Types of betrayal:
* Revealing secrets
* Gossiping
* Breaking promises,
* Abandoning a relationship

Question 8

Betrayal continued

Answer 8

Leads to lower perceived relational value

Those closest to us have the potential to hurt us the most!

Strains such as deception and betrayal are common events and not always intentional

• It may be difficult to manage competing demands from different relationships

ex: my friend cheats on her boyfriend and i dont say anything to him (him being a friend as well.
- if i tell him im bretraying her secrets
- if i dont tell him im betraying his trust

Question 9

Individual Differences in Betrayal

Answer 9

• Generally, those who have a pattern of betrayal tend to be unhappy, vengeful, resentful and suspicious

They often underestimate the harm
they do

Question 10

Revenge is NOT the
Answe

Answer 10

Revenge keeps us distressed and delays healing

Vengeful people tend to be more negative, less agreeable and less happy than those who choose to move on