Types of Love

Question 1

Building Blocks of Love

idealy have these 3 (but its hard)

Answer 1

Intimacy
* feelings of warmth, understanding,
trust, support and sharing

Passion
* sexual desire and excitement

Commitment
* feelings of permanence and working to maintain the relationship

Question 2

Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love

Answer 2

liking: intimacy

companionate love: intimacy + commitment
ex:arrange marriage,marriage that is not going well

Empty Love : commitment

Fatuous Love:passion + commitment

infatuation: passion

romantic love: intimacy+passion

Question 3

How does
Passionate Love
Develop?

Answer 3

Through our:
1. Arousal
2. Thoughts

Question 4

Arousal

Answer 4

Two factor theory of emotion
Passionate attraction is due to:

• physiological arousal
• believing another person caused our arousal

Question 5

Misattributions –

Answer 5

mistakes we make interpreting our
feelings

Question 6

Excitation transfer –

Answer 6

occurs when we are aroused by 2
stimuli, but we ignore one of them attributing our arousal to only one stimulus

• E.g., fear labelled as attraction

suspension bridge experiment

-go to a scary movie,sky daving,hunted house

Question 7

Limits to misattribution and excitation transfer

Answer 7

• time(paired association) - you have to be right there
• attributional clarity (recognize cause of arousal)

Question 8

Thoughts

Answer 8

Preoccupation and obsessive thought
* “The more you love, the more you think;
* The more you think, the more you love”
-texting

“Love is blind”
* reinterpret undesirable information
through idealization

Tied to our self-concept
* being in love increases self-esteem, is rewarding

Question 9

Characteristics of
Passionate Love

western ideal

Answer 9

• Absorption and desire
• Early in the relationship
• Little knowledge of the other person, ignorance of their full character
• Idealization: “love is blind”, overlook faults
• Complete personal fulfillment from object of affections
• Short-lived? most of the time

Question 10

Companionate Love

Answer 10

“Comfortable, affectionate, trusting love for a likable partner, based on a deep sense of friendship and involving companionship and the
enjoyment of common activities, mutual interests and shared laughter”

**Reason for long lasting relationships **
“My spouse is my best friend”
“I like my spouse as a person

Question 11

Characteristics of
Companionate Love

Answer 11

• Friendly affection and deep attachment based on extensive familiarity
• Less emotionally intense but more enduring than passionate love
• Between friends and/or lovers
• Tolerance for faults and overcoming of differences
• Often evolved from passionate love but may be reversed

Question 12

Styles of Loving

Answer 12

• Eros
• Ludus
• Storge
• Mania
• Agape
• Pragma

Question 13

Attachment Style
and Love

Answer 13

Compared to insecure individuals
(preoccupied/fearful), secure
individuals enjoy:

• more intimacy;
• more passion;
• more commitment; and
• more caring and caregiving

Question 14

Unrequited Love and
Attachment

Answer 14

“How enjoyable is it to be in love even if it’s not reciprocated?”

• Avoidantly attached (fearful) had highest rates of desire to be in love
  o in love with love/not in love
  with a person
• Anxiously attached (preoccupied) had lowest rates of desire to be in love
  o they desired to be in love with
  a specific other person