Chapter 9 LECTURE Part 2 Flashcards
T/F even to this day, there are scripts to dating, including the fact that the male still generally pays for the first date
true
outline the study done by Honeycut in 1989 that showcased that scripts exist for developing relationships even beyond the first date
asked pts to outline steps involved in forming a relationship. most came to a consensus of 17 steps
- meetinng
- small talk
- physical affection
- spending more time together
- self disclosure of intimate information
- introducing partner to social network etc.
Explain the study done by Honeycutt that addressed whether or not people without dating experience still understand a script
- looked at pts who were either experienced daters and inexperienced daters. both asked to generate a script for relationship formation and development.
- then the researchers scrambled all the steps
- presented experiences and non experienced daters sixth scrambled steps for relationship development. task was for pts to place elements of scripts in proper sequences.
FINDINGSS: both groups developed the same relationship script. we probably thus just pick up scripts due to our SOCIALIZIATION.
the one difference was that when steps of the script was presented in a scrambled order, the experienced group put the steps in order MORE QUICKLY.
WHAT indicates the odds of a successful relationship?
the critical variable of a successful relationship is similarity. this holds for both the attraction stage and for the relationship maintenance stage.
T/F racial background and demographics play a role in relationship success
true. we are more likely to form relationships with people who are similar to us
T/F: personality similarity play a role in relationship success
not as important. false. EXCEPT FOR THE TRAIT OF AGREEABLENESS. At least one partner should be high in agreeable ness.
T/F: attitude similarity play a role in relationship success
true.
T/F physical attractiveness play a role in relationship success
true. we tend to pick someone of about our same level of attractiveness.
T/F: Leisure preference similarity play a role in relationship success
ture. its important that partners enjoy doing the same thing during leisure time. might even be more important than attitudes.
OVERALL, similarities are more important than “opposites attract” for a successful relationship.
outline the study done by BYRNE (1970) regarding the importance of attitude similarirty
- looked at bringing strangers into lab and filled out questionnaire.
- then pts had the opportunity to look at other pets answers.
- BUT: confederates were the ones to actually fill out all the questionnaires to match a pts attitude or not
- pts liked a hypothetical stranger more if that persons attitude were more similar to theirs.
criticism of the original BYRNE study regarding the importance of attitude similarity
there may be aspects of falseness because of the lab setting.
a follow up study done by BYRNE was done to look at the importance of attitude similarity WHILE curtailing the original criticisms of falseness in setting. outline
- randomly matched up males and females and sent them out on a date (COKE DATE STUDY)
- gave couples 75 cents to go to the cafeteria and get a coke
- they came back to the lab and recorded how much they enjoyed each other’s company
- before the date, pts attitudes were assessed– pts didn’t know if they were matched to someone similar or dissimilar to them
- EVEN THOUGH PTS WERENT AWARE about the attitude matching, th pets who were matched with someone according to similarity REPORTED LIKING EACH OTHER MORE COMPARED TO DISSIMILAR ATTITUDES
therefore, attitude similarity is important for a sustained relationship– we can assess similar attitudes right from the get go.
How did Rubin test the validity of his love and liking scale?
he created a scale to differentiate the 2 concepts: gives a love score and liking score for a partner.
- they determined the validity of love of scale.
- he advertised scale to dating couples
- they filled out Rubin scale and answered questionnaires about their relationship.
- people who scored higher on Rubin scale reported higher amounts of believing they will marry their partner and that they were in love.
- they did a reciprocal questionnaire.
- COUPLES THAT SCORED HIGH ON RUBIN SCALE WERE MORE LIEKLY TO PHYSICALLY EXPRESS THEIR LOVE MORE (EX/ GAZING, HUGGING, CARESSING)
- they had observers hide behind one way mirror: even time couple looked into each other eyes, it was recorded secretly.
- a high level on a rubin love scale = increase time spent gazing + declaring their love for their partners.
3 ELEMENTS THAT MAKE UP LOVE THAT WAS TESTED BY RUBIN TO ASSESS VALIDITY
- caring
- intimacy
- need/attahment/bondedness.
score differences between friends and couples on the love + liking Rubin test
- people had higher love scores for their partner vs friend.
- people had smaller liking gap between partner vs friend.