Chapter 7 Notes P. 2

Question 1

Positive Attributes in Social Interaction

Answer 1

1. Speak directly to others when spoken to
2. Initiate social contact
3. Don’t wait for others to initiate social contact
4. Carry on a conversation
5. Don’t fall back on yes or no/one-word answers
6. Express gratitude towards others
7. Let another person walk before yourself when passing through a door
8. Wait until one person is served something, before serving oneself
9. Thank others
10. Say please
11. To share

Question 2

Negative Attributes in Social Interaction

Answer 2

1. Don’t seem to know how or when to end a conversation or phone call and keep on talking.
2. Oblivious to all cues and hints to say good-bye
3. Conversation centers on themselves all the time
4. Isn’t interested in what others have to say
5. Ignore tentative attempts to refocus upon another
6. Intrude and ask “nosy” questions
7. Stands too close while talking
8. Spreads their belongings into other people’s space
9. Interpreting or using body language poorly
10. Misinterpreting or misusing facial expressions (like not making eye contact)
11. Poor sense of emotional speech (talking too shrilly or flatly).

Question 3

All people face what moment of peril? How does it start?

Answer 3

• the one of being accepted/rejected
• invited/uninvited by the group
  It starts as young child in group play, outings, lunch tables, etc.

Question 4

What does universal predicament mean?

Answer 4

it happens to everyone

Question 5

3 habits of a bully. What do they result in?

Answer 5

1. Try to change the subject too abruptly or too soon
2. Try to change the subject to support their own opinions
3. Simply disagree with others right away

These habits result in others rejecting them (by either non-invites to events or non-inclusion).

Question 6

What does Psalm 37:4 teach about emotions?

Answer 6

1. Your emotions are a vital part of you

2. God wants them to be fulfilled

Question 7

When did humanistic literacy become popular?

Answer 7

1950s

Question 8

What was the primary literacy?

Answer 8

Secular Humanism (led by John Dewey)

Question 9

What was the primary reason for the switch of

Answer 9

?

Question 10

How are we to consider problems as said in James 1?

Answer 10

Consider it pure joy

Question 11

Explain how the scriptural concept of hope is illustrated in studies given in success and optimal experiences in life.

Answer 11

James 1. Perseverance –> Character –> Hope

When you have hope, you gave an optimistic way of looking at life

Question 12

“Intra” Personal (within) skills

Answer 12

Self awareness

Self Management

Question 13

“Inter” Personal (others) skills

Answer 13

Social Awareness

Relationship management

Question 14

“Intra” Personal response to failure (OPTIMISTIC)

Answer 14

An opportunity to mature/grow

Question 15

What is the only way to improve your E.Q.?

Answer 15

do it

Question 16

“Inter” Personal response to failure (OPTIMISTIC)

Answer 16

Will view the problem as something that can be changed

Question 17

What does your response to failure mean?

Answer 17

a problem exists

Question 18

“Intra” Personal response to failure (PESSIMISTIC)

Answer 18

Views the problem as a personal defect that cannot be changed

Question 19

“Inter” Personal response to failure (PESSIMISTIC)

Answer 19

Find someone to blame and attach the problem to something outside your control and therefore cannot change.

Question 20

Internal locus of control (faith)

Answer 20

based on the belief that life and behavior is ruled by your own personal choices, decisions, and actions

Question 21

External locus of control (faith)

Answer 21

Belief that others rule and determine your circumstances

Question 22

How do all of these things of Seligman lead to Manic Depression?

Answer 22

You are always “one step away”

Question 23

When discussing the four basis emotional skills, what do you have to have?

Answer 23

the right mood

Question 24

What is “the right mood” defined by?

Answer 24

what you have faith in

Question 25

What is a weak mindset?

Answer 25

Blaming others and assuming that nothing is going to change

Question 26

Your emotional response to “what we want vs. the authority (time, place, person, etc.)” allows you to _______ and _______.

Answer 26

understand and manage

Question 27

5 steps to time management

Answer 27

1. Be proactive
2. Audit your time
3. Establish priorities
4. Set SMART goals
5. Create a workable schedule

Question 28

SMART

Answer 28

Specific
Measurable
Achievable
Relevant
Time

Question 29

9 Behaviors Emotionally Intelligent People Won’t Do

Answer 29

1. They Won’t Let Anyone Limit Their Joy
2. They Won’t Forget
3. They Won’t Die in the Fight
4. They Won’t Prioritize Perfection
5. They Won’t Live in the Past
6. They Won’t Dwell on Problems
7. They Won’t Hang Around Negative People
8. They Won’t Hold Grudges
9. They Won’t Say Yes Unless They Really Want To

Question 30

8 Behaviors Individuals with High Emotional Intelligence Possess

Answer 30

1. Motivate Oneself
2. Persist in the face of frustrations
3. Control impulse
4. Delay gratification
5. Regulate one’s mood
6. Keep distress from swamping your ability to think clearly
7. To empathize
8. To hope

Question 31

What does “they won’t forget” mean?

Answer 31

being cautious

Question 32

What does “they won’t die in a fight” mean?

Answer 32

certain things don’t need to be argued