Chapter 7 Notes P. 2 Flashcards
Positive Attributes in Social Interaction
- Speak directly to others when spoken to
- Initiate social contact
- Don’t wait for others to initiate social contact
- Carry on a conversation
- Don’t fall back on yes or no/one-word answers
- Express gratitude towards others
- Let another person walk before yourself when passing through a door
- Wait until one person is served something, before serving oneself
- Thank others
- Say please
- To share
Negative Attributes in Social Interaction
- Don’t seem to know how or when to end a conversation or phone call and keep on talking.
- Oblivious to all cues and hints to say good-bye
- Conversation centers on themselves all the time
- Isn’t interested in what others have to say
- Ignore tentative attempts to refocus upon another
- Intrude and ask “nosy” questions
- Stands too close while talking
- Spreads their belongings into other people’s space
- Interpreting or using body language poorly
- Misinterpreting or misusing facial expressions (like not making eye contact)
- Poor sense of emotional speech (talking too shrilly or flatly).
All people face what moment of peril? How does it start?
- the one of being accepted/rejected
- invited/uninvited by the group
It starts as young child in group play, outings, lunch tables, etc.
What does universal predicament mean?
it happens to everyone
3 habits of a bully. What do they result in?
- Try to change the subject too abruptly or too soon
- Try to change the subject to support their own opinions
- Simply disagree with others right away
These habits result in others rejecting them (by either non-invites to events or non-inclusion).
What does Psalm 37:4 teach about emotions?
- Your emotions are a vital part of you
2. God wants them to be fulfilled
When did humanistic literacy become popular?
1950s
What was the primary literacy?
Secular Humanism (led by John Dewey)
What was the primary reason for the switch of
?
How are we to consider problems as said in James 1?
Consider it pure joy
Explain how the scriptural concept of hope is illustrated in studies given in success and optimal experiences in life.
James 1. Perseverance –> Character –> Hope
When you have hope, you gave an optimistic way of looking at life
“Intra” Personal (within) skills
Self awareness
Self Management
“Inter” Personal (others) skills
Social Awareness
Relationship management
“Intra” Personal response to failure (OPTIMISTIC)
An opportunity to mature/grow
What is the only way to improve your E.Q.?
do it
“Inter” Personal response to failure (OPTIMISTIC)
Will view the problem as something that can be changed
What does your response to failure mean?
a problem exists
“Intra” Personal response to failure (PESSIMISTIC)
Views the problem as a personal defect that cannot be changed
“Inter” Personal response to failure (PESSIMISTIC)
Find someone to blame and attach the problem to something outside your control and therefore cannot change.
Internal locus of control (faith)
based on the belief that life and behavior is ruled by your own personal choices, decisions, and actions
External locus of control (faith)
Belief that others rule and determine your circumstances
How do all of these things of Seligman lead to Manic Depression?
You are always “one step away”
When discussing the four basis emotional skills, what do you have to have?
the right mood
What is “the right mood” defined by?
what you have faith in
What is a weak mindset?
Blaming others and assuming that nothing is going to change
Your emotional response to “what we want vs. the authority (time, place, person, etc.)” allows you to _______ and _______.
understand and manage
5 steps to time management
- Be proactive
- Audit your time
- Establish priorities
- Set SMART goals
- Create a workable schedule
SMART
Specific Measurable Achievable Relevant Time
9 Behaviors Emotionally Intelligent People Won’t Do
- They Won’t Let Anyone Limit Their Joy
- They Won’t Forget
- They Won’t Die in the Fight
- They Won’t Prioritize Perfection
- They Won’t Live in the Past
- They Won’t Dwell on Problems
- They Won’t Hang Around Negative People
- They Won’t Hold Grudges
- They Won’t Say Yes Unless They Really Want To
8 Behaviors Individuals with High Emotional Intelligence Possess
- Motivate Oneself
- Persist in the face of frustrations
- Control impulse
- Delay gratification
- Regulate one’s mood
- Keep distress from swamping your ability to think clearly
- To empathize
- To hope
What does “they won’t forget” mean?
being cautious
What does “they won’t die in a fight” mean?
certain things don’t need to be argued
