Chapter 7 Notes Flashcards
“It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence, it is not the triumph of heart over head—it is the unique intersection of both.”
David Caruso
Psalm 37:4
“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”
Romans 12:1-3
How you can test and approve God’s good, perfect, and pleasing will.
“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.”
Epicurean vs. Stoic
Epicurean - Emotions are based on desires, feelings, etc.
Stoic - Mind is the structure and order
What did stoicism come from?
Greek culture and human philosophy
What is the Bible a foundation of?
logic and reasoning in which to argue the laws put into place
Balance of powers
Executive
Legislative
Judicial
Why did people study the Constitution?
People studied the US Constitution for what it represents
Being literate means to what?
- to read, write, understand, express oneself
- The ability to take what’s in you and being able to express them in a manner you feel and think them
What does humanistic literacy appeal to during the 1950s-now?
Appeals to humanistic philosophy which is Epicurean and Stoic (I-centered)
Formal government schooling took on a humanistic philosophy
John Dewey
What is disunity?
Going against each other
Purpose of Goleman’s book (Emotional Intelligence)
to find a unity of the emotions and mind in humanistic language
Majored in psychology from the University of Pennsylvania (1994)
Martin Seligman
_________ is another word for modernism.
Humanism
The cost of modernism results in __________.
depression
What is the consequence of Romans 1?
depravity
Language built into humanism
it’s never wrong to be selfish
Language built into the Bible
it’s always wrong to be selfish (love never fails)
What dominates our decision making process?
Objectivity and logic
Which psychologists proposed the concept of emotional intelligence?
John Mayer (New Hampshire) Peter Salovey (Yale)
What did the psychologists define emotional intelligence as?
the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them, and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and action
Who developed a tool for measuring emotional intelligence?
David Caruso
Who is the author of “Emotional Intelligence”?
Daniel Goleman (1995)
Who wrote “The Closing of the American Mind”?
Allan Bloom (1987)
“As it now stands, student have powerful images of what a perfect body is and pursue it incessantly.
But deprived of literary guidance, they no longer have the image of a perfect soul, and hence do not long to have. They don’t even imagine there being a thing.”
Allan Bloom
In Goleman’s “Emotional Intelligence” book, what is all of humanity in danger of/one step away from?
Manic Depression
Why are emotions important?
- to make good decisions
- take optimal action to solve problems
- cope with change
- succeed
8 skills of a high E.Q.
- Motivate oneself
- Persist in the face of frustration
- Control impulse
- Delayed Gratification
- Regulate one’s mood
- Keeping distress from swamping your ability to think
- Empathize
- Hope
What is the #1 way to break a bad mood?
Serve others
List the basic skills for Emotional Intelligence.
- Identify and express emotions
- Use or generate emotions
- Understand emotions
- Manage emotions
How do you recognize feelings and emotions?
- being aware of emotional clues in yourself and in people around you
- being able to discern between different types of emotion
- being able to identify the level of intensity to which the emotion is present
- being able to identify what these emotional clues mean.
This is the ability to know which emotions or moods are best for di erent situations and to get us into the “right mood.”
Use or generate emotions
This is the ability to recognize and grasp emotional information.
Understanding emotions
knowledge of simple and complex emotional terms
emotional vocabulary
understanding how emotions combine to form another emotion, progress or intensify, or transition from one emotion to another.
emotional comprehension
being able to understand possible causes of emotions and predict what kinds of emotions people will have in different situations.
emotional analysis
This is the ability to regulate emotions within us and in other people.
Manage emotions
What does managing emotions involve?
Monitoring, observing, and distinguishing differences
Feelings and moods can be what?
Improved and modified
Blueprint for emotions
- Identify- What emotions are you and others
experiencing? - Use - How are these emotions directing and impacting thinking?
- Understand - What caused these emotions? How might these emotions change?
- Manage - How do you manage your emotions and others’ emotions?
If any of you think you are something when you are nothing, you deceive yourselves. Each of you should test your own actions. Then you can take pride in yourself, without comparing yourself to somebody else, for each of you should carry your own load.
GALATIANS 6:3-5
David and Goliath
P. 49/133 (1 Samuel 17: 43-44)
“Immediately Jesus knew in his spirit that this was what they were thinking in their hearts…”
MARK 2:8
King Artexerxes and Daniel
Nehemiah 2:2, page 50/152
“Why does your face look so sad when you are not ill? This can be nothing but sadness of heart”? Who said this?
King Artexerxes
Four abilities form the core of emotional strength
1) the ability to identify and express emotions
2) the ability to use or generate emotions
3) the ability to understand emotions
4) the ability to manage emotions
Where does emotional schooling start?
Family
Foundations of emotional schooling.
- You learn how to feel about yourself
- How others react to your feelings
- How to react to your feelings
- Choices we have in reacting
- How to read and express hopes and fears
Way to gain hope
Perseverance –> character –> maturity –> hope
3 most inept parenting styles
- Ignoring feelings altogether
- Being too Laissez-faire
- Showing no respect for a child’s feelings
8 ways to learn better in school.
- Being self-assured
- Being interested
- Knowing what behavior is expected
- How to rein in the impulse to misbehave
- Being able to wait
- Following directions
- Turn to teachers for help
- Expressing needs while getting along
Who wrote “The Fifth Discipline”?
Peter Senge
What is the system with “The a Fifth Discipline”?
Everything will be the same until you change (I.e. Arguing with parents)
What is the point of all the tables and lists?
Self-awareness
What is the danger of being emotionally unhealthy?
Addiction
Name 3 emotional unhealthy addictions.
Depressed: narcotics
Anxiety: alcohol
Anger: Op… (Marijuana)
What is driver of human emotion?
Significance and appreciation
Emotional unhealthy addictions + significance and appreciation = ?
Loss of innocence
Why do people in poverty have poor emotional intelligence?
They don’t have the opportunity for redirection because they are poor
