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1
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what is an attachment figure

A

the person who you go to when you need comfort

  • kids = their parents
  • adults = parents, peer, partner
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why we attach in childhood

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Babies are very weak, helpless

Staying close to parents in childhood promotes survival

Attachment system evolved to promotes infant-caregiver bonding

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why we attach in adulthood

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Pair bonding is also adaptive

The attachment system, which we use to attach to
parents in childhood, transfers to romantic partners in adulthood (Fraley et al., 2005)

We’re evolved to form enduring romantic
attachments

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pair bonding

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selective associations between two individuals of the same species. These strong social relationships are typically observed within breeding pairs of monogamous species; however, pair bonds can exist between animals that are not sexually involved or sexually exclusive.

bonding together = better offspring

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is pair bonding rare

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yes

less demanding children only need 1 parent

only 1/4 mammals
only 1/5 primates

it evolved for offspring who need help from both parentrs

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evolution is lazy (bonding)

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using the same bonding for the cargiver bond and the partner bond

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roles of attachment figure (2)

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  1. secure base (ur not upset or stressed, can pursue goals, silently support and lets you explore, someone to check in w while u explore, buys u ingridients but watches u cook)
  2. safe haven (when u r distressed ur attachment system activates and ur motivated to find ur attachment figure, successful attaxchment figure will calm u)
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threats and attachment figure

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threats prompt us to look for attachment figure

doesnt need to physcial beside u

Threats to our wellbeing prime us to think
about/turn to our attachment figures

E.g., 127 Hours - stuck under rock and thinking of family helped

Soldiers writing to their loved ones

Airwaves get clogged during disasters - wanting to called loved ones

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proximity seeking

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We’re generally
motivated to stay close to our
attachment figures

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paradox of seperatiaon and threat and attachment

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Paradoxically, being separated from
an attachment figure leads to attachment system activation

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can u have more than 1 attachmnet figure

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yes and u should

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order of most common attachment figure

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partner, mother, friend, child, sibling, father

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being a good attachment figure

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  1. secure base - promote freedom and indepdence, respect and support others efforts and decioons, encourage, not being super hands on, letting them do their own thing
  2. safe haven - Be available, perceptive, Respond when the need comfort, affection, active listenong, be a shoulder to cry on
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found myself a cheerleader

she is always there when i need her

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secure base = cheerleader

safe haven = always there

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strange situation

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Secure: comforted by caregiver

Anxious-ambivalent: can’t be comforted

Avoidant: doesn’t seek comfort

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avoidant baby

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is almost angry

very cold

mom is not a secure base

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anxious baby

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cannot stop crying

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can attachment style change

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yes

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19
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parent is consistenly responsive

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Strong model of self, strong model of others

securely attachment

needs r always met

recived support

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2 childhood working models for attachment style

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Model of self: worthy of love?

\Model of others: available and responsive?

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If parent is never responsive (or controlling):

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Uncertain model of self, weak model of others

avoiadnalty attached

never there, controlling, cannot trust othres, learn to be self reliant, dont express emotions

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If parents is inconsistent:

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Uncertain model of others , weak model of self

anxious attach

all over u and then ignoring u

think u hv to work for love

feels unworthy of love

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If parent is erratic, abusive:

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Weak model of both self and other

double wammy
high anxiety and high avoidance

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attachment not patholigizedd

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evolutionary, adaptive, a time in ut life when this wasd useful

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I find it relatively easy to get close to others and am comfortable depending
on them and having them depend on me. I don’t oftenworry about being
abandoned or about someone getting too close to me

A

secure

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26
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am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust
them completely, difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous
when anyone gets too close, and o>en, love partners want me to be more
in?mate than I feel comfortable being.

A

avoidant

27
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find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I o>en worry
that my partner doesn’t really love me or won’t want to stay with me. I want
to merge completely with another person, and this desire some?mes scares
people away

A

anxious

28
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threat -> attachment figure close by

A

feeling secure

attachment system deactovated

can start problem solving and coping

29
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threat. -> no attachment figure

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anxiety first

if no proximity avilable then deactive attachment system and nhibited emotionad

if yes proximity then hypervigilent anf attachment system remains activated

30
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is attahcmnet just a category

A

no its a scale of many thifs

31
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De-activating strategies

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“Checking out mentally” when your partner is talking to you.
* Keeping secrets and leaving things foggy- to maintain feeling of
independence
* Avoiding physical closeness (walking ahead of partner)
* Forming relationships with an impossible future, such as with
someone who is married.
* Focusing on small imperfections in your partner: the way they
talk, dress, eat.
* Pulling away when things are going well (like after an intimate
date)

32
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anxious intimiacy

A

Strong need to be close,
accepted, supported, and
reassured

33
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anxious in relationship

A

Clingy, needy, controlling,
jealous, often seeking
reassurance

34
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anxious associated w

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Low self-esteem, sensitivity to
rejection, neuroticism

35
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anxious info processing

A

hyperactivity of negative
thought and emotion

36
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anxious physcial intimacy

A

Use sex as a tool for intimacy

37
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avoidant intimacy

A

feel uncomfortable with:
closeness, disclosing about
themselves, feeling &
expressing intimacy

38
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avoidant in relationship

A

expect relationship failure &
averse to commitment

39
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avoidant assocoated w

A

Narcissism, valuing work and
freedom

40
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avoidant w info processing

A

suppress upsetting thoughts &
memories

41
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avoidant and physical intimacy

A

+ views of casual sex, sex to
avoid fights

42
Q

secure and intimacy

A

Comfortable with closeness,
trust others. Turn to others
when upset.

43
Q

secure in relationship

A

More stable and satisfying
relationships

44
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secure associated w

A

good stuff

45
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secure info processing

A

Positivity bias. Allow self to feel
all emotions

46
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secure physcial intimacy

A

Better communicators, more
satisfied

47
Q

anxious behv

A

Strong need to be close, accepted, supported, and
reassured

Attachment system hyperactivation
-Hyperactivity of negative thought and emotion
- Hypervigilant focus on attachment figures
-Minimize distance from attachment figures
-Clinging and controlling

Intense ambivalence Intense need for closeness, combined with intense
fear of abandonment (e.g., Joel, MacDonald, &
Shimotomai, 2010)

48
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excessive reassurance seeking

A

Seeking reassurance when it has already been provided
- Vicious cycle – reassurance isn’t reassuring specifically because it was
forced
- Anxious attachment predicts ERS which in
turn predicts depression

49
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avoidant behv

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feel uncomfortable with closeness, self-disclosure, feeling & expressing intimacy
- self-described independent, low desire for social bonds
- Strong desire to avoid closeness, weak desire to approach closeness (Locke,
2008

attachment system deactivation
- Avoiding intimacy by not acknowledging distress
- Suppressing distressing thoughts & memories

Expect relationship failure; averse to commitment (Birnie et al., 2009)
- Feel higher levels of attraction when interacting with potential alternatives
(Overall & Sibley, 2008)

50
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Secure behaviour

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Believe distress is mangeable

Learned that proximity leads to support protection and relief of distress - turning to others when distressed

Acts anxious or avoidance when situation requires - activate attachment only when necessary

More stable and satisfying relationship

51
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Secure info processing

A

Positivity bias/optimistic bias

Assumes the best, not too sensitive to negativity

Attachment is only primsed by threat

52
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Anxiety info processing

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Always on the lookout (hypervilginat)

Ruminating to negatkve events of percoved negative events

Attachment conditions and worries chronically accessible

53
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Avoidant info processing

A

Attachment based words and cognition are not particularly accessible even under conditions of threat

Skilled at suppressing rejection

Less attn to negativity and don’t encode it

Not interested in info abt partners thoughts and feelings

54
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Do avoidant ppl care

A

Yes, they just try to protect themselves

  1. Avoidant who receive positive social feedback report higher positive affect and state self esteem
  2. Avoidant who interact w warm validating interaction report highest connection
55
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Avoidants avoid situations in which true intimacy, closeness is possible

A

Avoidantly attached participants perceived lower potential for intimacy with, and lower romantic interest in responsive targets

56
Q

š Circumvent the attachment system:

A

avoid potential for intimacy

57
Q

Why date someone insecure

A

Insecure people have features that are appealing during relationship initiation
š Participants were led to believe that they were interacting with a possible date (competing with others to win a date)
š Anxious attachment:
š Talked more, used humour, seemed more willing to share,
greater variety of self-disclosures, seemed more interesting
š Avoidant attachment:
š Used humour, physical touch, eye contact with camera

58
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Can attachment style change

A

Yes

Get in good relation means less avoidant

Breakups make secure ppl insecure

Newly weds become secure over time

59
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Partner decreases in avoidance

A

You decrease at the same time and in the future

60
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Partner increases avoidance or anxiety

A

You increase in avoidance because ur partner got worse at responding to ur needs so u feel like u cannot trust

61
Q

Someone who rlly wants to be in a relationship

A

Anxious

62
Q

Someone w good communication

A

Secure

63
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Is attachment universal

A

In 79% countries studied, secure attachment was most endorsed (Schmitt et al., 2004)
š Preoccupied more prevalent in East Asia
š Insecure in areas where resources scarce
Ideal attachment in Taiwan & US (Wang & Mallinckrodt, 2006)

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