Examples of Positive Behavioral Requests Flashcards
An Individual has a mismatch with positive verbal communication and negative body language [kinesics].
An individual who has a mismatch between positive verbal communication and negative body language may create confusion and distrust in others. For example, if someone says they are happy but they cross their arms, avoid eye contact, or frown, they may send mixed signals that contradict their words. This can make it hard for others to understand their true feelings and intentions. If the person denies that there is a mismatch, they may be unaware of how their body language affects their communication. They may benefit from getting feedback from others or observing themselves in a mirror or a video recording. To give feedback to others who have intimidating behavior, you need to be careful and assertive. You need to protect yourself from any potential harm and avoid putting yourself in a dangerous situation. You need to choose the right time and place to give feedback, preferably when the person is calm and in a neutral setting. You need to use a firm and confident tone, but not aggressive or confrontational. You need to state the facts and the impact of their behavior, without exaggerating or blaming. You need to express your feelings and needs, without being defensive or apologetic. You need to request a specific change in their behavior, without making ultimatums or threats. You need to be prepared for their possible reactions, such as denial, anger, or guilt-tripping, and not let them manipulate you or make you feel bad. You need to stand your ground and repeat your message if necessary, without getting into an argument or backing down.
Getting the mail.
- Identify outcome: want getting the mail to satisfy the needs of everyone involved with getting the mail.
- Evaluate how getting the mail can be a cherishing behavior.
- Share compliment with Three Good Things science.
- Specific positive behavioral requests based on the unique desires and needs of each person with win/win agreements in writing. Evaluate types of behavior involved with getting mail to understand people’s feelings. Brainstorm how positive feelings can outweigh negative feelings with behaviors. Plan to improve with exercises that improve relationships with specific case negotiation techniques.
- When overheated, observe positive behavior.
- Continue in writing with email if needed.
- Compliment efforts and encourage professional health care providers and ask about the day, week, month and year long-term plans.
- Ask for the next meeting when, leader, notetaker and positive message.
What is an example of a science-supported family meeting agenda?
A science-supported family meeting agenda is a way of planning and conducting family discussions that are based on evidence and research. Some examples of topics that can be included in such an agenda are:
- How to improve family communication and emotional regulation skills
- How to set and achieve family goals and values
- How to cope with stress and challenges as a family
- How to support each other’s learning and development
- How to foster positive family relationships and interactions
A science-supported family meeting agenda can help families to enhance their well-being, resilience, and cohesion. It can also promote a culture of curiosity, inquiry, and feedback within the family.
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Ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship” example of performance pact:
Marital Inventory [test of commitment, communication, cherishing behaviors, performance pacts decision-making and response to conflict] with
example of talking. p. 25.
Performance pact:
Request for specific improvement in talking with pause and ask if necessary with assist to look and listen.
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Ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship” example of performance pact:
Marital Inventory [test of commitment, communication, cherishing behaviors, performance pacts decision-making and response to conflict] with example of weight and dress. p. 26.
Performance pact:
Request for doctor visit, join Weight Watchers fitness program with assist with meals and resources for dress.
Ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship” example of performance pact:
late and dirty pp. 71-73
- Clarify understanding of difficulties
One of the ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship”, is the concept of a performance pact. A performance pact is a written agreement between two partners that specifies their expectations and responsibilities in the relationship. It also includes the consequences of not fulfilling them and the rewards of doing so. A performance pact can help couples communicate better, resolve conflicts, and improve their satisfaction.
An example of a performance pact is given in pages 71-73 of the book. It is about a couple who had problems with lateness and cleanliness. They agreed to write down their goals and standards for these issues, and to review them every week. They also decided on what would happen if they failed or succeeded in meeting them. For instance, if one of them was late more than twice a week, they would have to do an extra chore for the other. If they were both on time for a whole week, they would treat themselves to a movie. The performance pact helped them become more punctual and tidy, and also more appreciative of each other.
2. Clarify importance of family cherishing behavior agreement and request how help to improve performance pact.
Ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship” example of performance pact:
budget problem p, 93
- Clarify problem/difficulty
- Clarify how to improve
- Request with if manageable
Ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship” example of performance pact:
difficulty with vacuuming timing p. 112
- Clarify vacuuming difficulty with timing
- Request for help
- Offer to help
Ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship” example of performance pact:
improve reward incentive for someone p. 113
- Observe successful performance behavior happening with someone
- Request improvement in reward incentive.
- Request thoughts
Ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship” example of performance pact:
individual makes sandwich for one person and another person requests sandwich also p. 114 - 116
One that makes request can request for sandwich with request to help
One that is receiving request can request help to make sandwich.
Ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship” example of performance pact:
go to activity together for specific time p. 121
- Request to go to activity together for specific time.
2. Clarify understanding of difficulties and offer to help
Ideas from William Lederer’s book, “Creating a Good Relationship” example of performance pact:
request for help with activity at specific time p. 121-122
- Request for help with activity at specific time.
2. Clarify understanding of difficulties and offer to help
Ride home from school
Boys Town encourages daily positive conversation that shows you love, care and are able to be there for all and calmly solve all challenges with interest in all with what do, able to answer questions and solve problems calmly. https://www.boystown.org/parenting/track/pages/tween-discipline-email%E2%80%8B-series-II/tween-discipline-1.aspx?view=3&utm_source=automated&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=tweentrack&utm_content=email1&_hsenc=p2ANqtz-9unVqBg7t4uEq-WbgGaAH2bpasyvJLpdti2MYxEcHbo0P-l2pNHOvbHDr7_38esn-bs19YqzUlZOeKAYBKTajfv1g7g&_hsmi=61743906
https://twitter.com/askMyClass/status/1236334553737895937
With learning difficulties, refer to #EveryTryCounts https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1pWp-LPEI07knH02kKVbMb8UCVIOKO0R0B7BitfyYVw4/edit?usp=sharing.
With challenge of criticism: feel, evaluate
With challenge of contempt: compliment
With challenge of defense: listen
With challenge of stonewalling: deep breath think
https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/avoiding_the_four_horsemen_in_relationships
With challenge of conversation: conversation starters with sharing highlight, picture of progress with feelings and evaluation of happiness, humor/fun, pride, learning, lunch social, fear, sadness, how improve, compassionate care for others, most challenging, kindness
Conversation Starters at https://twitter.com/askMyClass/status/1236334553737895937
Breaking news media
- Watch for warning signs had enough and stop the media.
- Opportunity to learn ideas with science-supported information and clarify feelings.
- Opportunity to brainstorm science-supported action to improve.
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