8/4/2020+ Examples of Positive Behavioral Requests

Question 1

Individual says, “‘They ignored me.’”

Answer 1

“‘How, “specifically”, did they ignore you?’”

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Question 2

Individual says, “‘The children force me to punish them.’”

Answer 2

“‘How, “specifically”. do the children force you to punish them?’”

p. 227
https: //books.google.com/books/about/Solutions.html?id=YXRSOQAACAAJ”‘How would you like to get recognized?’”
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Question 3

Individual says, “‘I don’t get any recognition.’”

Answer 3

“‘How would you like to get recognized?’”

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Question 4

Individual says,”‘Pay attention.’”

Answer 4

“‘What do you want me to attend to?’”

p. 228
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Question 5

Individual says, “‘I regret my decision.’”

Answer 5

“‘Does anything stop you from re-deciding?’”

p. 228
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Question 6

Individual says, “‘I want help.’”

Answer 6

“‘How do you want to be helped?’”

p. 228
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Question 7

Individual says, “‘I never do anything right.’”

Answer 7

“‘You “absolutely never ever” do “anything” right?’”
“‘Have you ever done “anything” right?’”
p. 229
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Question 8

Individual says, “‘You are always lying to me.’”

Answer 8

“‘I’m “always” lying to you?’”

p. 229
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Question 9

Individual says, “‘It’s impossible to get what I want.”

Answer 9

“‘Have you ever gotten something you wanted?’”

p. 229
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Question 10

Individual says, “‘I can’t do it.’”

Answer 10

“‘What stops you?’”

p. 229
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Question 11

Individual says, “‘You have to finish by Tuesday.’”

Answer 11

“‘What would happen if I don’t?””

p. 229
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Question 12

Individual says, “‘I have to take care of other people.’”

Answer 12

“‘What would happen if you don’t’?’”

p. 229
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Question 13

Individual says, “‘I can’t tell him the truth.’”

Answer 13

“‘What will happen if you do/””

p. 229
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Question 14

Individual says, “‘Your writing on the wall bothers me.’”

Answer 14

“‘How does my writing on the wall bother you?’”

p. 230
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Question 15

Individual says, “You frustrate me.’”

Answer 15

“‘How do I frustrate you? How is it possible for me to frustrate you?’”

p. 230
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Question 16

Individual says, “I’m sad because you’re late.’”

Answer 16

“‘How does my being late make you feel sad?’”

p. 230
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Question 17

Individual says, “‘Everyone thinks I am taking too much time.’”

Answer 17

“‘How, specifically, do you know that everybody is thinking that?’”

p. 231
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Question 18

Individual says, “I’m sure you can see how I feel?’”

Answer 18

“‘How, specifically, can you be sure I see how you feel?’”

p. 231
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Question 19

Individual says, “‘I know what’s best for him.’”

Answer 19

“‘How, specifically, do you know what is best for him?’”

p. 231
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Question 20

Individual says, “‘He never considers the consequences.’”

Answer 20

“‘How, specifically, do you know he never considers the consequences?’”

p. 231
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