9/6/2021+ examples to improve feelings problem solving helpful Flashcards
unhealthy belief
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1WZ2Pov33MTk0apsHulas6JrujXos-4zDYR4Zm2FWq-I/edit?usp=sharing
“Start by agreeing (this can also be validating statement), and then offer a ‘twist’ on what the person said, offering a different perspective on what they’ve told you.”
“It sounds like he may have made some bad decisions while you were gone, and now he’s trying to figure out how to get things back on track.” p. 5
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1WZ2Pov33MTk0apsHulas6JrujXos-4zDYR4Zm2FWq-I/edit?usp=sharing
frustration
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1WZ2Pov33MTk0apsHulas6JrujXos-4zDYR4Zm2FWq-I/edit?usp=sharing
offer personally successful referral, to go with to referral, share details, normalize, positive consequences, pressure relative to danger
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1WZ2Pov33MTk0apsHulas6JrujXos-4zDYR4Zm2FWq-I/edit?usp=sharing
helpful
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
encourage brief, present, positive, “I” statements, understanding communication when calm, available/time, good experience
learn how to improve with love, contact information with offer to learn/improve together
celebrate
problem solve with ten solutions, choose best, act, evaluate, paced breathing
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
scary
respect emotions “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
“‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
observe courage
“‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
re-experience trauma
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
avoid situations remind of trauma
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
negative change
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
hyperarousal
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
sad
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
misuse alcohol/drugs
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
anxious
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
anger, aggressive
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
gain/lose excessive weight
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
startled
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
driving
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
sleep challenge
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
work responsibility
give attention with forward lean nod SOFTEN Smile when appropriate Open arms Forward lean Eye contact Touch virtual Nod
validate with listening, name when say emotion, “Wow,… sounds like that was…for you.’”
respect emotion “‘In that situation, it makes sense you feel/say/do’”
open ended questions: “‘What was that like for you?’”
“‘What do you mean when you say’”?
observe strengths “‘I am amazed how much courage that took.’”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
in living room with family
“I noticed you joined in tonight. I had a really great time tonight.”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
Observe helpful behavior
“Thanks for helping with…today. That’s such a big help and …” enjoy “time with you”.
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
shares about day
“It sounds like you had a really” emotion day
“Do you want to go for a walk together or to dinner and talk about it?”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
question with complain late selfish
“It sounds like you are really upset. I want to hear what you have to say, but it seems like now is not the best time to talk. Why don’t we talk about this tomorrow morning?”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
problems don’t need treatment
“That’s good news I think. It’s easier to improve if you tackle the problems before they get too serious. But I do see you suffering and unhappy and I’m concerned about you.”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
time
“Apparently some of the treatment programs offer counseling in the evening because they know jobs are important to people.”
https://www.ptsd.va.gov/apps/CRAFTPTSD/
