7/22/2020+ Examples of Positive Behavioral Requests

Question 1

Individual has difficulty communicating.

Answer 1

Identify interpreter over age 16 and clarify confidentiality. Clarify the Red Cross offers financial assistance with Direct Client Assistance, disaster health services and counseling, reunifies families, referrals to resources.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tkhfPn33RGk

Question 2

Individual makes progress or accomplishes healthy task or behavior.

Answer 2

‘You did very well this time!’ ‘I see how you came up with different strategies until you found what worked!’ ‘I noticed you stayed on task even if the problem was tricky!’
https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/encouraging_kids_toward_honesty

Question 3

Individual accuses you of infidelity.

Answer 3

Are you concerned that I am breaking our written win/win agreement with each other? I reassure you that I am following our performance pact we agreed on. Let’s redirect our attention to a healthy activity to enjoy together. We have plans to meet and garden together.
https://bottomlineinc.com/health/alzheimers/sex-love-intimacy-alzheimers-spouse

Question 4

Individual invites you to an activity.

Answer 4

I would love to do the activity with you.

https://bottomlineinc.com/health/alzheimers/lessons-dementia-alzheimers-coach

Question 5

Individual refuses to do an activity.

Answer 5

I know you love to do the activity when conditions feel good. I am happy to organize good conditions that help you to feel good doing the activity.
https://bottomlineinc.com/health/alzheimers/lessons-dementia-alzheimers-coach

Question 6

Individual makes a complaint about an activity.

Answer 6

Offer to help improve the conditions of doing the activity.

https://bottomlineinc.com/health/alzheimers/lessons-dementia-alzheimers-coach

Question 7

Individual is showing health symptoms.

Answer 7

I observe you showing health symptoms. What are your needs and concerns? I encourage connecting to people who might help.
https://bottomlineinc.com/life/family/accepting-your-parents-limitations

Question 8

Individual talks about oneself.

Answer 8

Thank you for connecting with me and sharing how you are doing. Are we addressing all health concerns?
https://bottomlineinc.com/health/health-care-professionals/doctors-who-talk-too-much

Question 9

Individual makes a general complaint.

Answer 9

“‘Can you give me an example?’”
Different people have different ideas about your complaint. What specifically is the problem?
What encourages you to communicate at this time? What do you see, feel and think that leads you to your complaint?
https://www.worldcat.org/title/behavioral-assessment-of-adult-disorders/oclc/6251499

Question 10

Individual complains of failure.

Answer 10

Clarify understanding of failure involving specific relationships. Oh gosh, what do you think you could do to ameliorate the situation? Clarify how feels when experience negative responses. Investigate personal resources of confidence, assertiveness and calm relaxed in successful experiences that could improve solving the negative responses to feel more satisfied.
pp. 141-147 https://books.google.com/books/about/Solutions.html?id=YXRSOQAACAAJ

Question 11

Individual says, “‘I don’t understand.’”

Answer 11

“‘You don’t understand what?”’ or
“‘What don’t you understand?’”
“‘How specifically do you know you don’t you understand?’”
p.226 https://books.google.com/books/about/Solutions.html?id=YXRSOQAACAAJ

Question 12

Individual says, “‘I’m afraid.’”

Answer 12

“‘What or whom are you afraid of?”’

p.226 https://books.google.com/books/about/Solutions.html?id=YXRSOQAACAAJ

Question 13

Individual says, “‘I don’t like him.’”

Answer 13

“‘What about him don’t you like?’”

p.226 https://books.google.com/books/about/Solutions.html?id=YXRSOQAACAAJ

Question 14

Individual says, “‘He’s the best.’”

Answer 14

“‘He’s the best what?’”

p.226 https://books.google.com/books/about/Solutions.html?id=YXRSOQAACAAJ

Question 15

Individual says, “‘He’s the best listener.’”

Answer 15

“‘He’s the best listener amongst whom?’”

p.227 https://books.google.com/books/about/Solutions.html?id=YXRSOQAACAAJ

Question 16

Individual says, “‘No one wants me.’”

Answer 16

“‘Who, “specifically”, doesn’t want you?’”

p. 227
https: //books.google.com/books/about/Solutions.html?id=YXRSOQAACAAJ

Question 17

Individual says, “‘They are obstinate.’”

Answer 17

“‘Who, “specifically”, is obstinate?’”

p. 227
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Question 18

Individual says, “‘This is hard.’”

Answer 18

“‘What, “specifically”, is hard for you?’”

p. 227
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Question 19

Individual says, “‘He rejected me.’”

Answer 19

“‘How, “specifically”, did he reject you?’”

p. 227
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Question 20

Individual says, “‘The children force me to punish them.’”

Answer 20

“‘How, “specifically”. do the children force you to punish them?’”

p. 227
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