3/30/2016 Resolving Conflict Flashcards
What can we learn about conflict resolution from the story of Lehi and Sariah?
ACT
AGREE Lehi- “I am a visionary man”
COMFORT “my father comforted my mother”
TESTIFY “I know… I know… I know”
What is the Lord’s standard regarding anger and contention?
contention is inevitable in relationships: False
Packer: there are many who teach it is normal and expected in… but that’s false” Packer
What is the difference between a fool and a wise man?
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.
What principles of conflict resolution are taught in Matthew 18:15-17?
private first, then with witnesses, and then to the church
What does Mark 9:29 have to do with conflict resolution?
“And he said unto them, This kind can come forth by nothing, but by prayer and fasting.”
True or False: Contention is inevitable in all relationships, including marriage and family relationships.
False
What were the six principles of conflict resolution discussed in class?
check your pride at the door
change yourself- not your partner
develop emotional intelligence (maturity)
distinguish between preference and principle
schedule weekly companion councils
What is the higher ground principle?
“you cannot lift another soul until you are standing on higher ground than he is. You must be sure you are setting the example of what you would have him be” -Lee
What is the opposite of love?
apathy
What is the grapefruit syndrome?
Ceaseless pin-pricking
What is the difference between a preference and a principle?
In essentials [principles], let there be unity; in non-essentials [or preferences], let there be liberty; and in all things, let there be charity!
What are some do’s and dont’s of effective companion inventories?
Honest… etc
Describe the Indian talking stick method of resolving conflict.
Only one person talks until that person is understood
What are some ways to make “deposits” in an “emotional bank account?”
keep promises, do small acts of kindness, be loyal, listen, say you’re sorry, set clear expectations
