2/24/2016 Preparation for Marriage, Part 2 Flashcards
Name two immature behaviors that are detrimental to a successful marriage.
many options- selfishness, holding grudges, placing blame, etc
Beyond determining the character of a potential spouse, we must understand well the potential partner’s family heritage. Therefore, what should we carefully consider?
Their relationship with their family?
Elder Holland said we decrease our capability to have a good marriage and increase the risk of feeling unsafe and insecure in a relationship if we do what?
Separate dating from discipleship
What advantages did Elder Oaks say dating has over hanging out?
Allows extensive evaluation of prospects
Get acquainted
Encourage conversation
See how you treat others and are treated one-on-one
Learn to initiate and sustain a mature relationship
Elder Oaks counseled young men to look for someone to pair off with. How did he say they should start?
Start with a variety of dates with a variety of young women, and when that phase yields a good prospect, proceed to courtship. It’s marriage time.
What two cautions did Elder Oaks give to young women?
Resist too much hanging out, and encourage dates that are simple, inexpensive, and frequent. Don’t make it easy for young men to hang out in a setting where you women provide the food.
If you turn down a date, be kind.
Elder Robbins contrasted the worldly notions of “falling in love” and “falling out of love” with the way the Lord and His prophets describe love. What was the essential difference?
As opposed to the worldly view based on the physical and implying lack of control, like tripping, The love of which the Lord speaks is not only physical attraction, but also faith, confidence, understanding and partnership. It is devotion and companionship, parenthood, common ideals and standards. It is cleanliness of life and sacrifice and unselfishness. This kind of love never tires nor wanes.
President Monson taught that having a strong testimony of the Savior and His gospel will protect you from the sin and evil around you. What four things did he say are essential to keep your testimony vital and alive?
obedience to the commandments, regular prayer, scripture study, attend church and seminary/institute.
What three issues did President Monson say are keeping some young men from marrying? What solutions did he offer?
Concerned about providing financially- no shame in saving together.
Afraid of making the wrong choice-exercise faith, find compatibility and be committed.
Having too much fun being a bachelor- It’s time to grow up.
Name five characteristics of mature relationships.
We can initiate and sustain a conversation.
We listen to and understand each other.
We discuss a broad range of topics.
We share our deepest thoughts and feelings with one another.
We can resolve differences of opinion that arise between us.
Research has shown that relationships are more likely to be successful when four things are in place. Name them.
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Identify the three meanings, in order, of the word “right” as in “right” person.
‘Right’ Person
- Righteous and upright
- Suitable and appropriate
- Genuine and real
In determining compatibility, what three things should be similar?
G = Goals P = Priorities S = Standards
What “yardstick” did President Benson give in choosing a right person to marry?
In his/her presence, do you think your noblest thoughts, do you aspire to your finest deeds, and do you desire to be your best?
What is the average age of first marriage in the Church?
23 (in 2007)
