Stresses and strains

Question 1

Relational value

Answer 1

Degree to which others consider the relationship to be valuable and important

Question 2

Lower relational value =

Answer 2

feelings of pain

Question 3

higher relational value

Answer 3

feeling accepted respected

Question 4

Degrees of acceptance and rejection (inclusion to exclusion ) (7)

Answer 4

Maximal, active and passive inclusion
Ambivalence
Passive, active and maximal exclusion

Question 5

Are our hurt feelings simple

Answer 5

No, they are complex

Question 6

Can we feel different degrees of exclusion

Answer 6

People tend not to feel much difference between maximal exclusion and amplivalence

Question 7

How do we perceive drops in relational value

Answer 7

Very upsetting

Question 8

relational devaluation

Answer 8

Decrease in others regard for us, people feel hurt

Question 9

Higher abandonment anxiety and rejection

Answer 9

Experience more hurt

Question 10

avoidance and rejection

Answer 10

less pain

Question 11

Low self-esteem and rejection

Answer 11

feelings are hurt more easily

Question 12

Social Comparison theory

Answer 12

reasons, as well as the processes, behind the idea that people evaluate their own opinions, values, achievements, and abilities by comparison respectively with the opinions, values, achievements, and abilities of others

Question 13

Ostracism

Answer 13

rejection where someone is ignored

Question 14

Why is ostracism bad

Answer 14

Can threaten need to belong, damges self-worth leading to sadness

Question 15

People who ostracize others act:

Answer 15

angry, dismissive, aggressive

Question 16

How do people with high self-esteem put up with ostracism

Answer 16

They are less likely to

Question 17

Jealousy

Answer 17

Potential loss of a valued relationship to a real or imagined rival

Question 18

Reactive jealousy

Answer 18

actual threat

Question 19

suspicious jealousy

Answer 19

partner hasnt done anything but other wants to confirm suspicions

Question 20

Who gets jealous

Answer 20

• Dependent on relationship
• feel inadequate
• preoccupied
• neuroticism

Question 21

What makes us jealous

Answer 21

When it invoves : a friend, former partner, rival

Question 22

Social media impacts jealousy by

Answer 22

making us feel more jealous

Question 23

What is the evolutionary perspective on jealousy

Answer 23

Parental uncertainty, raising children alone

Question 24

What are the two kinds of infidelity

Answer 24

EMotional and sexual

Question 25

Does snooping protect a relationship

Answer 25

no, it is destructive

Question 26

Can jealousy be beneficial

Answer 26

if it is constructive and concerns are expressed

Question 27

How to cope with jealousy

Answer 27

reduce connection between the relationship and self worth

Question 28

How to decrease jealousy

Answer 28

Reduce irrational thinking, enahnce self esteem, improve communication, increase satisfaction and fairness

Question 29

Deception:

Answer 29

Intentional behaviour that creates an impression that the deciever knows is untrue

Question 30

Methods of deception

Answer 30

concealing information, diverting attention, half-truths

Question 31

Lies

Answer 31

Fabrication of the information

Question 32

Why do people lie

Answer 32

self-serving, benefit the liar, reduce embarassment, guilt, obligation, increase approval or material gain

Question 33

Deciever’s distrust

Answer 33

when people lie, they begin to percieve the recipients of the lies as less honest and trustworthy

Question 34

Truth bias

Answer 34

assumption partners are telling the truth

Question 35

Betrayal

Answer 35

hurtful actions by those we trusted and reasonably did not expect

Question 36

Forgiveness

Answer 36

decision to give up perceieve or right to get even with or hold someone in debt who has wronged you

Question 37

When is forgiveness more likely

Answer 37

an apology is given, desire to continue the relationship, anger is let go

Question 38

When is forgiveness more likely?

Answer 38

an apology is given, desire to continue the relationship, anger is let go

Question 39

Lies in casual vs comitted relationships

Answer 39

Fewer self-serving, greedy lies—and fewer lies overall—are told to lovers and friends than to acquaintances and strangers

Question 40

Why revenge Isn’t a Good Idea.

Answer 40

Revenge is usually less satisfying than people think it will be, and it usually seems excessive to its targets, thus engendering further dispute