Maintaining and repairing relationships

Question 1

Relational maintenance

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activities and cognitions that romantic partners engage in to sustain or enhance a relationship

Question 2

Millers definition of relationship maintenance

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strategic actions people take to sustain their partnerships - does not discuss enhancing, says its strategic, does not consider cognitions

Question 3

Relationship maintenance can be confused with a

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stage in life vs a process

Question 4

Cognitive approaches

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cognitive interdependence, positive illusions, perceived superiority, inattention to alternatives, derogation of tempting alternatives

Question 5

Behavioural approaches

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sacrifices, prayer, Michelangelo phenomenon, accommodation, controlling oneself, play , rituals, forgiveness

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relationship maintenance can be

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routine vs strategic

Question 7

Relational maintenance factors (1992) (5)

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positivity, assurances, networks, shared tasks, openness

Question 8

Seven factors (2000)

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positivity, assurances, networks, shared tasks, conflict management, advice giving

Question 9

Seven factors (2011)

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positivity, assurances, networks, understanding, self-disclosure, relationship talk, tasks

Question 10

Repairing relationships through prevention

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premarital counselling, premarital courses, prenup

Question 11

Therapy can have different approaches for

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behaviour, vulnerabilities, past events

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The best therapy is

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what works best for you

Question 13

The vulnerability stress adaption model does not consider

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policies that change impact external stressors in a relationship

Question 14

Relationship maintenance studies lack:

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generalizable demographic - be careful when interpreting them

Question 15

How does commitment impact relationships

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Partners think and behave differently - act in ways that avoid or defuse conflict and that enrich the relationship

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cognitive interdependence

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they think of themselves not as separate individuals but as part of a greater whole that includes them and their partners

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Positive illusions

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idealizing each other and perceiving their relationship in the best possible light

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perceived superiority

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makes one’s partnership seem even more special and really does make a relationship more likely to last

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inattention to alternatives

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leaves them relatively uninterested and unaware of how well they could be doing in alternative relationships

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derogation of tempting alternatives

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allows people to feel that other potential partners are less attractive than the ones they already have

Question 21

Michelangelo phenomenon:

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commitment encourages support for a partner’s new goals and endeavors that makes relationships more satisfying at any age, young or old

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accommodation:

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the willingness to control the impulse to respond in kind to a partner’s provocation and to instead respond constructively

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Self control is:

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good for relationships - make sacrifices, apologize more readily, forgive easier, withstand temptation

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Play:

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engage in novel, challenging, exciting, and pleasant activities together

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Savoring experiences

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positive events you share with your partner if you look forward to them, mindfully experience them, and then happily remember

Question 26

ritual

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recurring patterns of behavior that become familiar routines that “if gone, would be missed”

Question 27

How can problem solving be hard ourselves

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perceptions of our own behavior tend to be contaminated by self-serving biases

Question 28

Behavioural couple therapy

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encourages them to be more pleasant and rewarding partners

Question 29

Cognitive-behavioural couple therapy

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Changes various aspects of the ways partners think about and appraise their partnership; addresses selective attention, expectations, attributions, relationship beliefs

Question 30

Integrative behavioural therapy

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eeks both to encourage more desirable behavior and to teach the partners to tolerantly accept the incompatibilities that they cannot change - frustrations remain even if partners behave well, so we deal with incompatibilities

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Emotionally focused couple therapy

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seeks to reestablish desirable patterns of interaction between spouses, but its primary focus is on the emotions the partners experience as they seek to fulfill their attachment needs

Question 32

Insight-oriented therapy

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emphasizes individual vulnerabilities to a greater extent - help people comprehend how the personal habits and assumptions they developed in other relationships may be creating difficulty with their present partners