Love Flashcards
Centuries ago, was love imporant for marriage?
No, it was irrational and would destroy a marriage. Marriage was economic
What are the three aspects of Sternberg’s triangular theory of love
Intimacy, commitment, passion
Intimacy:
feelings of warmth, trust, support
Commitment:
Stability, permanence
Passion:
Physical arousal, desire, needs - any strong emotional need that is satisfied by one’s partner fits this category
Empty love:
Only commitment
Infatuation:
only passion
Liking:
only intimay
Fatuous love:
Passion + commitment
Romantic love
Passion + intimacy
Consummate love
Intimacy, passion and commitment
companionate love
Intimacy and commitment, a long, happy marriage in which the couple’s youthful passion has gradually died down
Does love change over time?
Yes, while consummate love is the best, it is not sustainable
Three aspects of love that the body responds to
Lust, attraction, attachment
Physiology of lust
Regulated by hormones, drives reproduction and sex
Physiology of attraction
Regulated by dopamine that drives bonding and excitment
Physiology of attachment
regulated by oxytocin that creates feelings of comfort
How does arousal impact feelings
Can be positive or negative, arousal leads to stronger feelings - adrenaline fuels love
Rubin’s love scale
Intimacy( same as Sternberg), caring, dependence (same as passion)
Describe compassionate love
committed, deep friendship, long-lasting satisfied relationships, concern for well-being, associated with more satisfaction and commitment over time
Romantic vs companionate love
Romantic: strong emotions, idealization
Companionate: close, comfortable
Factors influencing love (8)
Culture, attachment, type of relationship, length of relationship, personal beliefs, age, experience, proximity/location
How do lovers think about their partners?
View them in a positive light, ignore alternatives, make us view ourselves positively
Caring:
Romantic lovers report concern for the welfare and well-being of their partners
Love is blind:
People underestimate or ignore their lovers’ faults. They hold idealized images of their lovers that may differ in meaningful ways from the concrete realities they face
self-expansion model:
love causes our self-concepts to expand and change as our partners bring us new experiences and new roles, and we gradually learn things about ourselves that we didn’t know before
Physiology of companionate love
Releases oxytocin promoting well-being and satisfaction
Compassionate love:
Not in the triangular theory of love - care and concern with intimacy, share in pain and joy
- more satisfaction and commitment over time
Styles of loving
Eros, Ludus, storage, mania, agape, pragma
Eros
erotic lover finds good looks compelling and seeks an intense, passionate relationship
Ludus
ludic lover considers love to be a game and likes to play the field
Storage
prefers friendships that gradually grow into lasting commitments
Mania
demanding, possessive, and excitable
Agape
altruistic and dutiful
Pragma
practical, careful, and logical in seeking a mate
Unrequited love
romantic, passionate attraction to someone who did not return that interest
Coolidge effect
Novelty of experience adds excitement
How does love change with age
Passion declines, but intimacy and commitment both increase as we age - companionate love is more stable
Does love change with culture?
Love is much the same around the world, but cultural nuances exist.
