Love Flashcards

1
Q

Centuries ago, was love imporant for marriage?

A

No, it was irrational and would destroy a marriage. Marriage was economic

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What are the three aspects of Sternberg’s triangular theory of love

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Intimacy, commitment, passion

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Intimacy:

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feelings of warmth, trust, support

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Commitment:

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Stability, permanence

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5
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Passion:

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Physical arousal, desire, needs - any strong emotional need that is satisfied by one’s partner fits this category

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6
Q

Empty love:

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Only commitment

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7
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Infatuation:

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only passion

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8
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Liking:

A

only intimay

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9
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Fatuous love:

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Passion + commitment

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10
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Romantic love

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Passion + intimacy

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Consummate love

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Intimacy, passion and commitment

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12
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companionate love

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Intimacy and commitment, a long, happy marriage in which the couple’s youthful passion has gradually died down

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13
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Does love change over time?

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Yes, while consummate love is the best, it is not sustainable

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14
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Three aspects of love that the body responds to

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Lust, attraction, attachment

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15
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Physiology of lust

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Regulated by hormones, drives reproduction and sex

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16
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Physiology of attraction

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Regulated by dopamine that drives bonding and excitment

17
Q

Physiology of attachment

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regulated by oxytocin that creates feelings of comfort

18
Q

How does arousal impact feelings

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Can be positive or negative, arousal leads to stronger feelings - adrenaline fuels love

19
Q

Rubin’s love scale

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Intimacy( same as Sternberg), caring, dependence (same as passion)

20
Q

Describe compassionate love

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committed, deep friendship, long-lasting satisfied relationships, concern for well-being, associated with more satisfaction and commitment over time

21
Q

Romantic vs companionate love

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Romantic: strong emotions, idealization
Companionate: close, comfortable

22
Q

Factors influencing love (8)

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Culture, attachment, type of relationship, length of relationship, personal beliefs, age, experience, proximity/location

23
Q

How do lovers think about their partners?

A

View them in a positive light, ignore alternatives, make us view ourselves positively

24
Q

Caring:

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Romantic lovers report concern for the welfare and well-being of their partners

25
Q

Love is blind:

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People underestimate or ignore their lovers’ faults. They hold idealized images of their lovers that may differ in meaningful ways from the concrete realities they face

26
Q

self-expansion model:

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love causes our self-concepts to expand and change as our partners bring us new experiences and new roles, and we gradually learn things about ourselves that we didn’t know before

27
Q

Physiology of companionate love

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Releases oxytocin promoting well-being and satisfaction

28
Q

Compassionate love:

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Not in the triangular theory of love - care and concern with intimacy, share in pain and joy
- more satisfaction and commitment over time

29
Q

Styles of loving

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Eros, Ludus, storage, mania, agape, pragma

30
Q

Eros

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erotic lover finds good looks compelling and seeks an intense, passionate relationship

31
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Ludus

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ludic lover considers love to be a game and likes to play the field

32
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Storage

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prefers friendships that gradually grow into lasting commitments

33
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Mania

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demanding, possessive, and excitable

34
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Agape

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altruistic and dutiful

35
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Pragma

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practical, careful, and logical in seeking a mate

36
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Unrequited love

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romantic, passionate attraction to someone who did not return that interest

37
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Coolidge effect

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Novelty of experience adds excitement

38
Q

How does love change with age

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Passion declines, but intimacy and commitment both increase as we age - companionate love is more stable

39
Q

Does love change with culture?

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Love is much the same around the world, but cultural nuances exist.