Dissolution and Loss

Question 1

Common reasons relationships end

Answer 1

Different values, communication, infidelity, personality, alternatives, abuse, expectations not met, comparison levels ,different priorities etc

Question 2

History of divorce in Canada

Answer 2

1968 Unified divorce law was revised to time living apart from three to one year in 1986

Question 3

Divorce rates in canada

Answer 3

increasing

Question 4

Why have divorce rates changed

Answer 4

1. we expect more
2. marriage does not have the same practical value
3. marry for love and passion
4. perspective on divorce is changing
5. women working outside the home

Question 5

Reasons for a divorce in Canada

Answer 5

1. Living apart for more than one year
2. spouse committed adultery
3. spouse is physically or mentally cruel

Question 6

Cost of divorce

Answer 6

Increases if it is contested and if it goes to court

Question 7

millennial divorce

Answer 7

millennials who have long-term partners that do not get married that separate have a harder time because it is a grey area in the law. No laws to protect either person can get very messy

Question 8

Levinger’s barrier model

Answer 8

Attraction + alternatives + barriers contribute to relationship stability

Question 9

Using Levinger’s barrier model to explain leaving unhappy relationships

Answer 9

Barriers make it too difficult to leave

Question 10

Vulnerability-stress-adaption model

Answer 10

general model of marital instability; people enter relationships with enduring vulnerabilities and stressful events affect our adaptive processes are impacted (how we respond to stress), and failure to cope causes marital quality to decline

Question 11

Enduring dynamics

Answer 11

spouses bring in own problems, vulnerabilites into a relationship that may not be apparent at the beginning

Question 12

Emergent distress

Answer 12

Problematic behaviour that destroys a marriage emerges after the marriage

Question 13

Disillusionment

Answer 13

People begin relationships with unrealistically positive views

Question 14

Three general influences on marriage outcome

Answer 14

culture, personal, and relational contexts

Question 15

Process of breaking up

Answer 15

often difficult and takes time to process

Question 16

Break up distinctions

Answer 16

Direct vs indirect
gradual vs sudden unhappiness
individual vs shared decision
rapid vs slow
presence or absence of repair attempts

Question 17

5 stages of most breakups (not everyone goes through these)

Answer 17

personal, dyadic, social, grave-dressing, resurrection

Question 18

cohabitation causes

Answer 18

an increased risk of divorce later on

Question 19

Is brief cohabitation okay?

Answer 19

Brief cohabitation that is limited to one’s fiancé doesn’t seem to put a subsequent marriage at much risk

Question 20

Casual cohabitation seems to lead to

Answer 20

(a) less respect for the institution of marriage, (b) less favorable expectations about the outcomes of marriage, and (c) increased willingness to divorce

Question 21

stress spillover

Answer 21

in which we bring bad moods home and interact with our innocent partners

Question 22

Couples that have successfully dealt with stress

Answer 22

are likely to be more resilient and to adjust better to new stressors

Question 23

Other-orientated breakup

Answer 23

trying to protect the partner’s feelings

Question 24

self-orientated brekaup

Answer 24

being more selfish at the expense of a partner

Question 25

Persevering indirectness

Answer 25

repeated efforts to dissolve the relationship without ever announcing that intention and without engaging in any attempts to improve or repair the partnership

Question 26

Steps of divorce: personal phase

Answer 26

partner grows dissatisfied, often feeling frustration and disgruntlement

Question 27

Dyadic phase

Answer 27

the unhappy partner reveals his or her discontent. Long periods of negotiation, confrontation, or attempts at accommodation may follow

Question 28

social phase

Answer 28

The partners publicize their distress, explaining their side of the story to family and friends and seeking support and understanding

Question 29

grave-dressing phase

Answer 29

Mourning decreases, and the partners begin to get over their loss by doing whatever cognitive work and relational cleansing are required to put their past partnership behind them

Question 30

resurrection phase

Answer 30

the ex-partners re-enter social life as singles

Question 31

Post dissolution: churning

Answer 31

When partners break up but then reconcile and get back together

Question 31

Post dissolution: churning

Answer 31

When partners break up but then reconcile and get back together

Question 32

Is churning good

Answer 32

no - uncertainty and chronically lower satisfaction even when a relationship continues

Question 33

How do people feel after a divorce

Answer 33

nce they exited their distressed marriages, life started getting better

Question 34

How do divorces affect social networks

Answer 34

Social networks get smaller

Question 35

How are economic resources impacted in divorce

Answer 35

Finances deteriorate

Question 36

How are kids impacted

Answer 36

Parental loss, parental stress, economic hardship parental conflict

Question 37

enduring dynamics predict

Answer 37

How happy marriages will be

Question 38

Disillusionment predicts

Answer 38

divorce