Friendship Flashcards

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Friendship:

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voluntary, personal relationship, typically providing intimacy and assistance, in which the two parties like one another and seek each other’s company

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Components of friendship

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Affection, companionship, trust
Reciprocal self disclosure, emotional support, practical support

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Social support

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Provide us with aid; emotional, physical, advice and material support

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Emotional support is beneficial:

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has real physiological effects and mental health benefits

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Friendship in early childhood (6 steps)

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Unoccupied play, solitary play, spectator play, parallel play, associate play, cooperative play

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Peer relationships in childhood

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  • make friends quickly (havent formed judgments)
  • have multiple opportunities to form friendships
  • choose friends with similar interests
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What age to most children have at least one best friend

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age 10

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How do friendships change into adolescence

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Remain stable if friendships are high quality

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Older children struggle because

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They get more upset losing friends, find making friends more difficult

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Children who experience disruption and loss of close friendships:

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  • experience problems forming enw relationships
  • show poor adjustment
  • low self-esteem
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How many children are friendless

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15%

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Is being friendless bad?

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Not necessarily harmful, some children prefer solitude

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Peer acceptance:

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Degree that child is viewed as a worth social partner by peers

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Peer rejection

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ongoing interaction where child is deliberately excluded by peers

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How do rejected children behave (4):

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  • misinterpret other childrens behaviours
  • have trouble understanding and regulating emotions
  • Poor listeners
  • less socially competent
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How do relationships change in adolescence

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  • more time spent with peers
  • increasingly lean on friends
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Friends in young adulthood

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  • entering post-secondary
  • relationships typically change
  • dip in satisfaction with the transition but this will increase later
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Friendships in midlife

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  • social networks change - growth with a new partner
  • settling down is associated with spending less time with friends
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Friendships later in life

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  • smaller social networks, more selective
  • same number of close friends
  • less time with casual friends
  • quality not quantity
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socioemotional selectivity theory

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seniors have different interpersonal goals than younger people do - people age and their futures seem more and more finite, they become oriented more toward the present than toward the future, and they emphasize emotional fulfillment to a greater extent

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Shyness:

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Inhibited behaviour and nervous discomfort in social settings

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Shy people:

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Feer negative evaluation, tend to have poor self esteem, feel less competent in interactions

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A cycle of shyness

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  1. shy concern for other evaluations
  2. timid and awkward behaviour
  3. negative impressions on others
  4. others responses are less engaging and more distant
    Repeat
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Loneliness:

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unhappy discrepancy between number of quality of partnerships we want and those we have

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Friendship vs love
- Love: sexual desire, exclusivity, stringent standards of conduct, more loyalty - Friends: easier to dissolve, less passionate and committed
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Capitalization
we usually share good news with friends and receive enthusiastic, rewarding responses that increase our pleasure
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Emotional support is beneficial:
has real physiological effects and mental health benefits
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Effective social support
eads people to feel closer to those who provide it
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What is the best support:
The support that fits our needs and preferences. More effective when it fits the recipient’s current needs and goals
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invisible support
subtly provided without fanfare and actually goes unnoticed by the recipient
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Regardless of what support is offerd, it is more important:
it’s not what people do for us but what we think they do for us that matters
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Perceived partner responsiveness
judgment that someone is attentive, respectful, caring, and supportive with respect to our needs and aspirations; Very rewarding
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Perceived partner responsiveness promotes:
Intimacy, self-disclosure, trust, interdependenccy
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Rules of relationships
shared cultural beliefs about what behaviors friends should (and should not) perform
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Good friends are generally (4):
trustworthy and loyal, having our best interests at heart; confidants with whom we can share our secrets; enjoyable and fun companions; similar to us in attitudes and interests; and helpful, providing material support when we need it.
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Key needs in elementary, preadolescence, then teen years
1. elementary: Acceptance 2. preadolescence: intimacy 3. Teen: sexuality
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How does attachment change in adolescents?
They rely on friends for the satisfaction of important attachment needs
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Young adulthood satisfaction in friendships
lowest in the fall after they arrived at college. But by the end of that first year, most people were again content with their social networks
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How does intimacy increase in 20's
average intimacy levels of the participants’ interactions increased during their twenties. After college, then, people tend to interact with fewer friends, but they have deeper, more interdependent relationships with the friends they have
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What makes a best friend?
1. knowledge 2. trust 3. interdependence 4. commitment
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Midlife: dyadic withdrawal
People see more and more of a lover, they see less and less of their friends
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Opposite sex friendships in romantic relationships and marriage;
people tend to see much less of friends who could be construed by a spouse to be potential romantic rivals
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In marriage do people gave bigger social networks
Yes, more in-laws
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Diversity in heterosexual vs homosexual relationships
Straight people have less diverse friends, but thetu are just as rewarding
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relational self-construals
describe the extent to which we think of ourselves as interdependent, rather than independent, beings
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Machiavellianism
cynical, duplicitous, and manipulative, and they readily lie to others if it helps them get what they want
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psychopathy
bold, impulsive thrill-seekers who sometimes seem charming but who callously disregard others’ feelings and well-being
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Dark Triad
Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy; low levels of agreeableness and humility
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Does shy behaviour make a good impression
aloof, unrewarding behavior often seems dull or disinterested to others
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social loneliness,
being dissatisfied because we lack a social network of friends and acquaintances
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emotional loneliness,
being lonely because we lack affection and emotional support from at least one intimate relationship
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The lonliness scale has three themes:
Isolation, close connection, social connection
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Variation in lonliness is due to
Genetic influences, personalities, attachment style, self-esteem
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Why are macho men more lonely
They don't open up to other men and depend on women
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Low expressivity =
more lonliness
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negative attitudes toward others cause
lonely people tend to mistrust and dislike the very people from whom they seek acceptance and regard - causes dull interactions
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Is lonely behaviour more desctrctive than shy behaviour?
Probably, lonely behavior is more corrosive and obnoxious. Lonely people annoy us
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Loneliness and depression
Loneliness can lead to depression and cause excessive reassurance seeking
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are social media users more lonely
Heavy users of Facebook (and Instagram and Snapchat) are actually lonelier than light users are
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Attributes of friendship (5)
Respect, trust, capitalization, social support, responsiveness