Stability and Change in Socioemotional Development During Early Adulthood Flashcards
Attachment in Adulthood
Early attachment influence people into adulthood
-securely attached infants are more securely attached in romantic relationships- romantic partners act as a secure base
Secure attachment syle
adults have positive views on relationships,
- find it easy to get to others
- Not overly concerned about their romantic relationship
- positive romantic relationships
- committed romantic relationship
Avoidant attachment style
- Hesitant to get involved in romantic relationships
- Tend to distance themselves from partner
- not emotionally open
- Lower levels of sexual satisfaction
- lower commitment
- more depressed and unsure
Anxious attachment style
Demand closeness
- less trusting
- more emotional, jealous, afraid of rejection
- lower levels of sexual satisfaction
- Ambivalent about relationship commitment
- more depressed and anxious
Sexual activity in early adulthood
time when both partners are unmarried and sexually active
- males have more casual partners
- females more selective
- Sexuality plays an important role in relationship and life satisfaction
Heterosexual behavior and attitudes
Americans tend to fall into three categories: -1/3 hook up twice a week -1/3 a few times a month -1/3 a few times a year Adultery is the exception, not the rule Most couples are fairly conservative
sources of sexual orientation
sexual orientation is likely to a continuum from exclusively male-female relations to the latter
Causes of sexual orientation
genes, hormones, cognition, environment
Eriksons 6th stage
Intimacy vs isolation
Intimacy vs isolation
early adulthood is for developing intimacy
Love
vast and complex territory of human behavior which spans a range of relationships like: friendships, romantic love, affectionate love, and compassionate love
Friendship
plays important role in development throughout human life span
- woman have more close friend and friendship involves self-disclosure
- talk is central to their relationships
Romantic love
Passionate love, has strong components of sexuality and infatuation, “Honeymoon phase”
Affectionate love
occurs when someone desires to have the other person near and has deep, caring affection for the person, also called compassionate love
Sternbergs triarchic Consumate love
triangle of passion, intimacy, and commitment
Choosing a mate
Filter theory, potential partners pass through a series of “filters” to find an acceptable partner
Propinquity
geographic location
Attractiveness
males value this more than females
Social background
look for similarity in religion, political affiliation, education, occupation and social class
Consensus
similar values and goals
Complementary
“you complete me”
readiness for marriage
discrepancies can lead to termination of relationship
Ideal standards model
ideals guide us towards who to date and what to expect in the relationship, three interlocking components:
- Perception of self
- perception of the partner
- Perceptions about the relationship
Ideal partners are often based on:
emotional: warmth, commitment, intimacy
Physical and personality: health, passion, attractiveness
Economic: status and resources
Ideal relationships are based on
intimacy, loyalty, and stability
passion and excitement
John Gottman’s Horsemen of the Apocalypse (end of relationship)
criticism, defensiveness, contempt, stonewalling
Making marriage work
nurturing fondness and admiration, turning toward each other instead of away, letting your partner influence you, create shared meaning, 5:1 ratio (5 positives to overcome 1 negative)
Rapport talk
language of conversation, negotiating relationship, women
report talk
talk designed to give information; includes public speaking, men
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recession
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